She wanted an untamable image and an outlaw poster, but the reality was there were people far more stubborn, far more independent/self reliant/loners by nature, and far less competitive about life that thought the untamable image was silly. She seemed more like someone who wanted to fit a loner image when that was convenient, a social image when that was convienient, an untamable image when that was convenient, and a responsible even slighty subserviant housewife image when that was convenient.
Somebody that wants to tame/calm down everybody else, but doesn't want a taste of their own medicine, because they have an untamable image/reputation to protect.