noun used to define the new openness toward the lgbtq+ community. used ironically by the gays and unironically by homophobes
“i don’t know if i love or hate this gaydemic” says the homosexual at a bar
“oh dear god it’s just dudes on dudes and girls on girls, it’s a fucking gaydemic” says the homophobe on the other end of the bar
noun used to express the recent openness to the lgbtq+ community. used ironically by the gays and unironically by homophobes.
“i don’t know whether i love or hate this gaydemic” says steve, the homosexual at the bar
“oh my god it’s just dudes on dudes and girls on girls nowadays, we’re going through such a gaydemic” says adam, the homophobic guy at the other end of the bar.
the bartender looks between them and eyes the camera. his gaydar is impeccable and he knows this homophobe is a repressed part of the lgbtq+ community. he senses tension… gay tension.
* 1 year later *
the bartender looks between adam and steve at the altar as they recite they’re vows to each other. none of them is aware of the amount of bad biblical jokes that are to come, but it’s ok, they are in love.
when you're holding up your phone and making faces at it, as though you are taking a selfie, but you're really taking a picture of the person across from you or the wall or anything else that seems interesting but you don't want to be caught dead taking a picture of.
This action is often made more convincing by wiggling the eyebrows or opening the mouth, to pretend you're trying to get a Snapchat filter to work.
FRIEND A: "Did you just take a stealthie of me?"
FRIEND B (turning phone around): "no I was just using snapchat's new filter, see?"
The grindset is a contemporary ideology of self-exploitation disguised as strength, deeply tied to the aesthetics of the “sigma male” and to new digital forms of patriarchy. It promotes the idea that human worth depends on productivity, economic success, absolute emotional control, and the ability to work endlessly, turning vulnerability, rest, community, and tenderness into signs of weakness. Beneath its rhetoric of discipline and power often lies a profound inability to relate healthily to pain, fragility, and human interdependence.
“That’s the grindset, brother. While weak men sleep and complain, sigma males stay disciplined, work in silence, suppress emotions, and build power while everyone else wastes time chasing comfort.”