Being "Deadhaired" is when you call a brunette a brunette when she is literally identifying as a bleached-blonde.
She was upset because she was deadhaired! Her boyfriend called her a brunette but she already did her hair this month and she identifies as a bleached-blonde woman. It's sort of like being deadnamed, but different. (It's not about split ends either.)
churchhurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the churchhurt that was inflicted on me as a child.