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abuse by proxy

If all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbours, the media, teachers – in short, third parties – to do his bidding. He uses them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer, retreat, tempt, convince, harass, communicate and otherwise manipulate his target. He controls these unaware instruments exactly as he plans to control his ultimate prey. He employs the same mechanisms and devices. And he dumps his props unceremoniously when the job is done.

One form of control by proxy is to engineer situations in which abuse is inflicted upon another person. Such carefully crafted scenarios of embarrassment and humiliation provoke social sanctions (condemnation, opprobrium, or even physical punishment) against the victim. Society, or a social group become the instruments of the abuser.
- He keeps sending his friends over to ask for stuff he left behind after he had moved out!

- Abuse by proxy, if you ask me!
by zadanliran October 25, 2011
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Trannyhausen-by-Proxy

"Trannyhausen-by-Proxy," a play on Munchausen-by-Proxy, is the term for a parent (or parents) who has gender-confusion issues of their own or an emotional agenda of their own, and works those issues/agenda out on the body of a child by involving the child in trans activities to the child's detriment; disclaiming their own emotional involvement, but maintaining falsely that "The interest in being trans is coming from the child." The commonest pattern is a mother obtaining narcissistic gratification by parading her son around in a dress, while the father stands by helplessly as his son is rail-roaded into a permanent trans identity. The term arose in late 2020 as a response to the narratives presented in HBO's Transhood and the Save James case in Texas.
From the SaveJames FB page, 12/14/2020
If I had a nickel for every time someone said “they” don’t castrate or mutilate minors, I’d have enough money to save all the children in the world. “They” do indeed harm children — ask Anne’s own expert witnesses!
It’s an unfortunate trend, mostly foisted upon young children by mothers. It’s so common as a matter of fact, there’s a term for parents who reject their child in favor of bringing attention to themself: Transhausen, or Trannyhausen, Syndrome by Proxy. (A play on Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy). Trannyhausen-by-Proxy, for short.
by Didaskalos December 15, 2020
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Shithausen Syndrome by Proxy

Shithausen syndrome by proxy (SSBP) is a mental health problem in which a DJ makes up or causes an illness or injury in a person under his or her care, such as a child, an elderly adult, or a munter. Shithausen syndrome by proxy is a form of abuse.
Is the DJ playing music? No its house. Shithausen syndrome by proxy
by Gavinna December 5, 2021
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Putin proxy

As a Putin proxy, I am able to succeed beyond my wildest dreams.
by Dr Bunnygirl October 8, 2018
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Transhausen By-Proxy

When a parent coaches their child to believe they’re transgendered, and lives vicariously off the novelty.
Yeah, she talks about her transgender child all the time when it’s obvious her kid is a Tomboy.. She has Transhausen By-Proxy.
by Miltrain August 18, 2022
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vegan by proxy

A meat eater who respects vegan friends eating habits when eating with them but otherwise prefers animal products.
"Are you vegan?"

"No, I'm vegan by proxy."
by RuroJack May 10, 2009
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Phone Proxy

A PBX phone system or asterisk server running in a remote location to serve as an anonymous relay to yourself and the person you are calling via telephone
I just used a phone proxy from ProxyServices.com and called in a bomb threat to the school, hope they dont turn my docs over to the feds!
by MrShasta August 24, 2010
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