A statement used by people who are not interested in getting into a relationship with the person proposing to hook up. This statement is NOT gender specific and is just one of the polite ways of saying ‘no’. However, ‘let’
s just be
friends’ is always taken with a grain of salt by “nice guys” and “nice girls” who, after offering to still be
friends, become overwhelmed with frustration after being “shut down”.
Many people with little to no social skills
will bash you for using this term as a way of rejection, but that’s ok, because “let’s just be
friends” can be used to help you, man or
woman, root out someone who could’ve potentially been abusive, controlling, and/ or manipulative toward you. You’d be saving yourself from getting hurt if you use “let’s just be friends”... or, you’d let a good friend know that you don’t think it’s the best decision, and they respect you for your choice.
What happens when you use this statement-
Human 1: hey, I really like you and I think we should be more than
friends?
Human 2: I’m sorry, I
don’t feel the same way and I think we should just be
friends. ( let’
s just be
friends )
Human 1: wow ok whore bitch I was just trying to be nice you didn’t have to shoot me down like that have fun finding someone as good looking and nice to you as me!!
What SHOULD happen when you use this statement -
Human 1: hey, I really like you and I think we should be more than
friends?
Human 2: I’m sorry, I don’t feel the same way and I think we should just be
friends.
Human 1: ahh, okay, I understand.
(This is all Human 1 says, and they completely accept the rejection because they value Human 2 as a PERSON and being someone who legit CARES about them AS ANOTHER HUMAN BEING and not an OBJECT. Human 1 and Human 2 still talk to eachother and are happy being
FRIENDS.)
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Everyone, please, if you really love and care about the other person, but they don’t feel the same spark that you do, don’t hurt them. Don’t talk down to them. If you truly care, you wouldn’t value their body, and instead respect their boundaries and continue being there for them. Because you love them. Because you care.
You genuinely care.
