Start by concerning yourself with what you want to change about yourself if you're going to change anything at all (most of the world should be good enough the way it is without your need to do something to make it what you think it should be, or make people what you think they should be). You're not a transformer.
Someone who believes that anybody and everybody's heart can/should be softened and turned into their kind of guy.
The transformer girl is not gonna let it go on the attempts to turn the other person into a more soft-hearted, spiritual version of what they actually are. She will keep trying everything, insisting that there's a hidden weakness somewhere to take advantage of.