A person who is averse to the concept of being
transgender, but who is not a bad person.
Tom violently attacks
transgender people because he is a bad person and also a transphobe.
Jerry does not believe the story that some people are the opposite of their real
gender, just because they say they are...but he doesn't treat them badly. He is a good person, so that makes him a good transphobe.
A person who doesn't believe the story that transgender people truly are the opposite
gender of what they clearly are, is not automatically a bad person. But a person who automatically attacks and "cancels" everyone who doesn't believe everything said by transgender people, that is a tyrant and a bad person.
If you want to pretend to be something you are not, go ahead. But if we say "I can
see that you are lying", they doesn't give you the right to cancel us. We have a right to not agree with lies! As long as we are not attacking you, leave us alone.