A pick me (sometimes spelled as pick-me or pickme) is someone who puts down members of their own identity group for validation from others. Commonly used to refer to women (pick me girls), but can also be seen in others. Pick-me men also tend to be performative males, often pretending to relate to women's problems (most commonly in cis men). They often play into stereotypes, disregarding what the people around them are actually like
Pick me's can also be seen putting down members of their own ethnicity, sexuality, religion, etc (i.e: a trans person saying non-binary people are weird despite non-binary being under the trans umbrella)
Pick me's can also be seen putting down members of their own ethnicity, sexuality, religion, etc (i.e: a trans person saying non-binary people are weird despite non-binary being under the trans umbrella)
Girl 1: "Jane is such a pick-me."
Girl 2: "I know right??? She's always like "I'm one of the boys, I could never do make-up or drink something fruity" it's so annoying"
Girl 2: "I know right??? She's always like "I'm one of the boys, I could never do make-up or drink something fruity" it's so annoying"
by f0reverxternally October 21, 2025
Get the pick-memug. 
It's what delusional women say to women who have common sense and know how to treat a man. They use it, when your stance on a matter dealing with males, go against theirs.
She's a pick me. She believes a traditional man deserves a traditional woman. Not these new women, that require everything, but put out nothing.
by Piccausername August 11, 2022
Get the Pick memug. by Rockinrollrollercoasterdisney May 14, 2021
Get the Pick me girlmug. by Hellyswife April 22, 2025
Get the Pick-me girlmug. 1. conservative homosexuals who claim "they're not like other gays" and "there exists nothing like Homophobia" just to get Conservative brownie points.
2. Famous examples include Ernst Röhm and Rock Hudson, two closet conservative gay people who were thrown under the bus by Adolf Hitler and Ronald Reagan respectively. Ernst Röhm was thrown into the same concentration camp and Rock Hudson was given no support when he was HIV positive.
3. Faggots who themselves have piles, STDs and even HIV AIDS, have unhygienic sodomy, and will shit on trans, intersex and non binary people. Trans people especially, who've done so much labour during the HIV scare.
4. throw the rest of the community under the bus, waiting for their turn one day.
Also called grifter.
2. Famous examples include Ernst Röhm and Rock Hudson, two closet conservative gay people who were thrown under the bus by Adolf Hitler and Ronald Reagan respectively. Ernst Röhm was thrown into the same concentration camp and Rock Hudson was given no support when he was HIV positive.
3. Faggots who themselves have piles, STDs and even HIV AIDS, have unhygienic sodomy, and will shit on trans, intersex and non binary people. Trans people especially, who've done so much labour during the HIV scare.
4. throw the rest of the community under the bus, waiting for their turn one day.
Also called grifter.
Abhijit Iyer Mitra is a pick me gay. He's an ugly warthog who dances in dresses and then shits on the trans community. He's also very unhygienic and could have syphilis.
by waayytogo December 27, 2023
Get the Pick me gaymug.