Not attached to outcome. Dating is not a means to an end but rather a more dynamic process. Not everyone will be "the one." So many people only have this one acceptable outcome in mind and anything short of that is failure -- that's simply untrue.
Start at point A, which is meeting a new person. Maybe that person will get to point C or M but not make it all the way to Z (a long-term relationship). Try to be open to all possibilities of how someone might fit into your life versus backfilling them into some arbitrary end goal. This takes the pressure off of yourself to assess long-term compatibility immediately and recognize small wins.
Start at point A, which is meeting a new person. Maybe that person will get to point C or M but not make it all the way to Z (a long-term relationship). Try to be open to all possibilities of how someone might fit into your life versus backfilling them into some arbitrary end goal. This takes the pressure off of yourself to assess long-term compatibility immediately and recognize small wins.
"OMG I'm so nervous about this date! He seems perfect on paper! I think he's gonna be my husband!" "Make sure= you're dating NATO... the point of the first date is to go on a second... not get married!"
"They were nice but not sure if I feel romance, so I'm gonna cut it off." "No need to yet. If you date NATO, you don't need to pre-determine anything."
"They were nice but not sure if I feel romance, so I'm gonna cut it off." "No need to yet. If you date NATO, you don't need to pre-determine anything."
by ScruffyLover August 20, 2025

by ckycoyckynggccg October 3, 2022

When a girl can't keep a guy's attention for more than several days. When you see a friend with a different girl on his arm every week, he is suffering from Advanced Date ADD.
John: Hey Phil, I'd like you to meet Amber.
Phil: Oh, I thought you were with Melissa.
John: Nah.
Phil: That was a week ago. You got that Date ADD, bro.
Phil: Oh, I thought you were with Melissa.
John: Nah.
Phil: That was a week ago. You got that Date ADD, bro.
by massiveness12 April 14, 2014

A person of any age not being able to date until marriage due to certain guidelines set by the parents
"My father has exposed me to Non-premarital dating and is forcing me to abide by those rules, now i am going to run away to some far away country with my boyfriend like i'm in a shitty Disney movie."
by 888899990000000 July 17, 2023

by greenbottles April 12, 2010

Most men have heard this statement and accept it without protest or rationalizing what it means. Dudes, it's not about female emotion but rather their need to control. The need to control is really about the fear of losing control. Guys, if you allow a female to start setting rules at the beginning of a relationship, then it's a slippery slope. Tell your date she should not need a rule to decide when it’s the right time to share a personal moment together.
by Leap Cruncher August 5, 2021
