A major social problem that arises when an individual sets their romantic expectations and standards too high for decent people, who the individual likes, to be able to achieve. Normally it is fine to have some standards, but when descent people are unable to fulfill those expectations because of the large number of them and or because the expectations require extremely large amounts money and resources, require the individual to be in perfect physical shape that most people are not able to achieve, and or require the individual to be skilled at doing things that most people don’t know how to do that well, then the individual's expectations may be set too high. This is highly unethical to do, because extremely high standards tend to be very unreasonable and can prevent decent people from being able to get into a romantic relationship due to factors far beyond control.
Annabeth: Why is Emma so upset?
Lauren: She was in a relationship with a Johnny, but he dumped her because she supposedly didn't fulfill his expectations. The thing was his expectations were very unreasonable to begin with. He expects his partner to have flat abs, not to talk to other boys at all, and spend most of her time with him.
Annabeth: He sounds very inconsiderate. I am sure she will find someone better than him who knows how to treat their partner with respect. It sounds like Emma is another victim of the High Romantic Standards Dilemma.
Lauren: Agreed.
Lauren: She was in a relationship with a Johnny, but he dumped her because she supposedly didn't fulfill his expectations. The thing was his expectations were very unreasonable to begin with. He expects his partner to have flat abs, not to talk to other boys at all, and spend most of her time with him.
Annabeth: He sounds very inconsiderate. I am sure she will find someone better than him who knows how to treat their partner with respect. It sounds like Emma is another victim of the High Romantic Standards Dilemma.
Lauren: Agreed.
by Vanguard 1998 March 03, 2021
When a man acts so zesty around women it's impossible to tell if he's a simp or just gay
(a modern 'simp or gay?' take of the TV show Dexter where the mc is both a detective and a murderer)
(a modern 'simp or gay?' take of the TV show Dexter where the mc is both a detective and a murderer)
"Hey he keeps getting his nails done to hang around those pretty girls. That's a solid case of the Dexter Dilemma right there."
by CabbagesShouldBeRed April 10, 2024
aka. R.D.D. When an individual has a romantic crush on somebody, but does not know how to tell them how they feel about them. It often happens to people who have never asked someone out and has not been in a romantic relationship previously.
Alan: Hey Dima. What is the matter? You have not been yourself all day.
Dima: I have a romantic disclosure dilemma. I've had a crush on Kailani for months now and I want to ask her out before the semester is over, but I have no idea how to tell her how I feel about her.
Alan: You should go on Wikihow and look it up. They usually provide good advice on how to do stuff like that.
Dima: Thanks for the help. I'll try that.
Dima: I have a romantic disclosure dilemma. I've had a crush on Kailani for months now and I want to ask her out before the semester is over, but I have no idea how to tell her how I feel about her.
Alan: You should go on Wikihow and look it up. They usually provide good advice on how to do stuff like that.
Dima: Thanks for the help. I'll try that.
by Vanguard 1998 February 27, 2021
The good-option dilemma is that typical scenario where—for example—some evil authority figure holding you hostage gives you two options: one where you suffer the most and the other where you don't suffer as long as you give them what they want. Obviously you pick the second option out of desperation, but the dilemma here is that no matter what option you choose, in the end the evil figure will still make you suffer (typically by being killed or watching your loved ones die).
I had a good-option dilemma today where my computer's SSD got corrupted and I either had two options: wipe everything and do a clean reinstall of Windows, or pay a few hundred bucks to have some specialist recover the contents. So I paid for the recovery but the people shipped back the wrong drive with somebody else's files! So in the end, I had to wipe my drive no matter which option I went for. This is the good-option dilemma in a nutshell.
by Mary Mary Quite The Contrarian December 26, 2021
Luck and bad luck at the same time; unusual event that requires unusual response; event that has an aura of uniqueness
So you’ve met this amazing girl, but she’s from different country? Man, that’s some proper marine dilemma - you’re gonna have to come with a solution, you’ve never used before.
by Mr.Nobody2 January 01, 2020
Situation in which a person of higher authority (I.e. teacher, manager, boss) decides to sacrifice said authority for the sake of being liked or relatable. Often a pushover that would rather be liked than respected.
by SpongeBob Squaredude April 28, 2021
by BlueTempest1986 January 16, 2017