A man, not a woman, who deems it necassary to fondle, grope, stroke, pet or molest homosexual males. This person feels it to be acceptable by modern society to participate in these foul shananigans.
"hey Ms. Thompson, did you see that man?" -sammy
"Hehe Yeah! hey was such a fagfondler!" -Ms. Thompson
Fogey/fogy /fougi/ sl. (early 18C+, orig. Scot) old-fashioned, stuck-in-the mud.
Person with old fashioned ideas which he is unwilling to change: Come to the disco and stop being such an old fogey!
You think me an old fogeyand an old tory, his thoughtful voice said. I saw three generations since O’Connel’s time. I remember the famine. Do you know that the orange lodges agitated for repeal of the union twenty years before O’Connel did or before the prelates of your communion denounced him as a demagogue? You fenians forget some things. (James Joyce, Ulysses. Penguin Books,1992. p. 38)