A term usually used to describe a person who is subservient or cannot think for himself in a relationship. These men usually spend their time doing womanly chores and are occassionally allowed to playcricket by their wives in order to rediscover some sort of testosterone.
Wilbur and Cameron can playcricket, but this means they are under the thumb of the MRS at all other times.
When a girl is riding you cowgirl and you put your hands behind your back as if tied up, whilst both of your thumbs are up your own ass as she is riding... grinding your thumbs into your G-Spot.
John: Shirley had me under the thumbs last night
Mike: Nice! How awesome is it when they come once and think they’re in control... meanwhile you’ve milked your prostate seven times.
John: Two thumbs up ey!?
The grindset is a contemporary ideology of self-exploitation disguised as strength, deeply tied to the aesthetics of the “sigma male” and to new digital forms of patriarchy. It promotes the idea that human worth depends on productivity, economic success, absolute emotional control, and the ability to work endlessly, turning vulnerability, rest, community, and tenderness into signs of weakness. Beneath its rhetoric of discipline and power often lies a profound inability to relate healthily to pain, fragility, and human interdependence.
“That’s the grindset, brother. While weak men sleep and complain, sigma males stay disciplined, work in silence, suppress emotions, and build power while everyone else wastes time chasing comfort.”