Melinda is the opposite of judgefull, if there was a definition of it in the dictionary, if would be a picture of her crossed out. That's how much it isn't her.
A word made up to mean to be judgemental of someone, usually by those people who have lived in dark cupboards all their lives and never knew the actual word is 'judgemental'.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.