A black woman who puts herself first. Divestors walk away from
toxic behaviors in the black community.
Said toxicity can include: nonreciprocal struggle
love for the sake of "black
love", being activist warriors for a group of men who don't protect them, baby momma culture, etc. Divestors avoid
toxic black
people (particularly the men, who are black women's number one victimizers. "Unicorns" are so rare that vetting is not worth it).
A divestor is not male-identified or conventionally "woke" like many black women can be. She is not bound to any unwritten rules of "Blackistan". Divestors care deeply about black women as a demographic (especially in the context of black femicide + DV), but
may avoid some individual black women due to their proximity to
toxic black male worship.
Many divestors date interracially and leave the
hood, but it's a myth that divestment's ethos is to date a white man. A divestor can be: happily single, childfree, w/ a Latino or Asian man, a co-parenting mom, middle class, minimalist, and even a
lesbian.
Divestors have a growth, wellness, and self-preservation mindset. Healing/healed from traumas related to the black community. Young divestors tend to focus on their educational goals. Older divestors tend to focus more on their physical health and newfound
freedom.
A divestor loves her blackness, but not the
BS that comes with it. She is not a tribalist and knows "black power" is about black men.
She can be from anywhere in the diaspora.
Divestor'
s Sister: "You ackin'
funny because you dating out. You think you better than us with all them degrees. You ain't on Instagram no mo', I don't know what you be doing. Octavius been trying to get with you for the longest. He ain't got no churren and he ain't in any run-ins with the law"
Divestor: "Is that the bare minimum? That doesn't make any person a 'good man'. I'm with someone treats me well, has an equivalent educational level, has real interests and hobbies outside of social media/
rap/sneakers/
weed/hustling, and doesn't have
weird views on how our relationship dynamic should be just because I'm a black woman. My man cooks for me, admires my accomplishments rather than compete with me, and is doing very well at providing infrastructure for our future life. I stopped being on Instagram because you kept posting celebrities and
dusty men with podcasts.
