A black woman who puts herself first. Divestors walk away from toxic behaviors
in the black community.
Said toxicity can include: nonreciprocal
struggle love for the sake of "black love", being activist warriors for a group of men who don't protect them, baby momma culture, etc. Divestors avoid toxic
black people (
particularly the men, who are black women's number
one victimizers. "Unicorns" are so rare that vetting is not worth it).
A divestor is not male-identified or conventionally "woke" like many black women can be. She is not bound to any unwritten rules of "Blackistan". Divestors care deeply about black women as a demographic (especially in the context of black femicide + DV), but may avoid some
individual black women due to their proximity to toxic black male worship.
Many divestors date interracially and leave the hood, but it's a myth that divestment's ethos is to date a white man. A divestor can be: happily single, childfree, w/ a Latino or Asian man, a co-parenting mom, middle class, minimalist, and even a lesbian.
Divestors have a growth, wellness, and self-preservation mindset. Healing/healed from traumas related to the black community. Young divestors tend to focus on their educational goals. Older divestors tend to focus more on their physical health and newfound freedom.
A divestor loves her blackness, but not the BS that comes with it. She is not a tribalist and knows "black power" is about black men.
She can be from anywhere in the diaspora.
Divestor's Sister: "You ackin' funny because you dating out. You think you better than us with all them degrees. You ain't on Instagram no mo',
I don't know what you be doing. Octavius been trying to get with you
for the longest. He ain't got no churren and he ain't in any run-ins with the law"
Divestor: "Is that the bare minimum? That doesn't make any person a 'good man'. I'm with someone treats me well, has an equivalent educational level, has real interests and hobbies outside of social media/rap/sneakers/weed/hustling, and doesn't have weird views on how our
relationship dynamic should be just because I'm a black woman. My man cooks for me, admires my accomplishments rather than compete with me, and is doing very well at providing infrastructure for our future life. I stopped being on Instagram because you kept posting celebrities and dusty men with podcasts.
