I want to be in control of the situation and if I can't then no one is going to be allowed to be happy about the outcome.
The expression comes from the playground where one kid, the one who owns the soccer ball or basket ball, doesn't get his way in the game. If he doesn't get his way then he gets mad and punishes those who are unwilling to accept his mandate. He does this by taking his ball and going home thus ending the game and any fun the participants were having.
The expression "I'm going to take my ball and go home" when directed at an individual is used to illustrate the individual's immaturity when that person can't get his way and no longer wants to be a participant in the game or a contributor to Coach Clappy's offense.
Suzie: "Jordy sounds like a little bitch who says: I'm going to take my ball and go home!
"Take a Knee", heretofore called TAK. This term comes from American Football. Should you f**k up during practice or worse, during a game, the coach tells you TAK. I first heard this term in 1985, though I believe it originated from an earlier date.
Coach Says: Miss your read...TAK. Miss your block...TAK. Miss your hole...TAK.
Ex: God...mit John Doe! Get your blocks or you're taking a knee.
Ex: Jesus Freakin' Christ... that ball fell right through your hands, Take a Knee.