The realization that there aren't any main characters in the world and everyone has a complex life, thoughts, crushes, relatives, dreams and mind just as your own.
Essentially whilst you're the main character in your life, you're also a background character in someone else's.
Essentially whilst you're the main character in your life, you're also a background character in someone else's.
The knowledge that both I and you reading this are actual people like the remaining 8 billion of us is making sonder hit me like a truck.
by B O I B O I March 6, 2022
Get the sondermug. Sonder is the realization that everybody around you, even strangers, are living a life just as complex as yours. Sometimes your hurting so bad and you feel your the only one. But after all your hardships you start to realize that everybody is so unique and you aren't the only one. Everybody lives are so indescribably different and there is no way you will ever understand their lives. To sum it up you are realizing that your not the only one living with such chaos and complexity. All people lives are unique, strange, chaotic, and complex, just like yours. Your not alone.
I lay in bed so deep in my thoughts, the darkness was all around me while, slowly, the sonder started to kick in. I then realized that not only me, but all seven point fifty three billion people in this world which they are constantly living despite my personal lack of awareness of it.
by _i_found_it_mom_ July 29, 2019
Get the sondermug. Briefly, "the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own." Originally from the Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, which has a lot more beautiful neologism definitions like this you might enjoy.
by rednos January 10, 2013
Get the sondermug. by aImondmiIk June 20, 2019
Get the sondermug. A lost person in the realization that struggle to understand the aspect in life in understanding outside it’s own world as in self care in a way
by Vcx April 4, 2023
Get the Lost sondermug. The realization that your environment beyond just people, animals, or objects affects you indirectly, and that everything around you possesses a form of independent existence or influence.
Walking through the forest, I was struck with a profound sense of contiguous sonder. I realized that not just people but the animals, even the trees live lives of their own that affect me on ways I don't understand
by DerSpinneman April 5, 2025
Get the Contiguous Sondermug. A complex state of lucidity and being, more complex than the already existing word "Sonder". To be bewildered by seemingly mundane things, to be the observer of your own reality while understanding and consciously aware of just how complex other people's lives really are. Sonderance may also mean; to be in a trance like meditative state of unity and deeper connection to the universe surrounding you or I. Think "Ego Death" in a way.
There's Sonderance in this...the way the world works, the way life just goes, it's beautiful, isn't it? It's complex and confusing, but we all come from the same place at the end of the day.
by Cyp888 May 5, 2025
Get the Sonderancemug.