Exercise is only good if it makes you happy. If you're happy with who you are the way you are, without having to change, that matters more than looking a certain way. If you work out because somebody else thinks you should diet, change, or look a certain way, it's no good. The point of exercise is to improve/maintain your physical mobility mostly (for doing what you love to do in life), not to look like something from a magazine cover. There's a difference between loving yourself and being in love with yourself, so when someone tries to tell you that being okay with the way you are without changing is
narcissism, let them know if they had any heart they would look you in the eye when they said it instead of their eyes darting
around the room at everyone and
everything else.
Exercise is not a bad thing or a punishment, getting an
ass whooping is a punishment, though it's mild compared to
medieval torture. Still, if exercise becomes something you no longer enjoy, at least you don't have to do it
if you don't really want to.