1. An all-purpose insult hurled by sexually naive
children.
2. Otherwise, a deliberate term of abuse (self-appointed public guardians of the language like Ann Coulter notwithstanding,
see no. 65 above) towards a gay
man. When aimed by a straight person at a gay person, terms such as "cocksucker," "faggot," "fag," "dyke" or "
homo" are meant to insult, and do. "Queer" can be a little more liberally applied but nonetheless careful writers do not use it to refer to a group other than themselves unless they know the intended recipients of the remark very well.
--"I was just called a 'flaming faggot'. Does that mean I'm a bundle of
sticks on fire?"
--"You know perfectly well it doesn'
t. Man up and confront the person who so disingenuously hurled that
insult at you."