Definitions by ryan
sash widow
In the gay leather community, there are regional 'Mr. Leather' contests which are similar to beauty contests. The winner of the contest becomes Mr. Leather by receiving a leather sash and has to attend to special events like a celebrity, such as gay pride parades and fundraisers. He getsso busy being a sex symbol for the community that his partner is often forgotten, overshadowed or alone in the crowd. His partner then becomes the 'sash widow'.
Marc & Thom have been together for five years, and now that Marc is 'Mr. Leather', Thom is a sash widow.
sash widow by Ryan November 27, 2004
performance load
All men shoot different intensities of orgasms. Some are short, quick and just kinda dribble out, and others are long, repetitive and fly across the room. The latter are performance loads; when you shoot so much as to impress the observers.
I was so horny all day, that when I went to the naked party I shot a performance load right above my head.
performance load by Ryan November 27, 2004