When you ask a friend if he is in or out, he gives you a long and unnecessary reason why he's out.
Dude 1: You coming with us man??
Dude 2: I have to see my PO then run to the store and I have some projects to work on around the house...
Dude 1: Quit shark tanking me, are you IN OR OUT??!!
Dude 2: ...and for that reason, I'm out.
Fogey/fogy /fougi/ sl. (early 18C+, orig. Scot) old-fashioned, stuck-in-the mud.
Person with old fashioned ideas which he is unwilling to change: Come to the disco and stop being such an old fogey!
You think me an old fogeyand an old tory, his thoughtful voice said. I saw three generations since O’Connel’s time. I remember the famine. Do you know that the orange lodges agitated for repeal of the union twenty years before O’Connel did or before the prelates of your communion denounced him as a demagogue? You fenians forget some things. (James Joyce, Ulysses. Penguin Books,1992. p. 38)