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A phrase used when terminating a relationship. Usually used to confuse and/or draw attention away from the real reason the relationship is ending, because of the emotionally painful nature of the reason.

Rarely used in person, more often used in phone converstions, e-mails and voicemails.
He was a nice guy, but he was as good in bed as a cement block. So I called him up last night and told him it was over, but it wasn't him it was me.
by eight March 29, 2004
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From STEM, an abbreviation short for "Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics", a STEMlord is a pejorative term for a particular kind of person who has studied in these areas at university or works in these fields who holds a pretentious, condescending attitude to anyone who has studied in any other fields, particularly the Arts and Humanities. They typically believe themselves to be more "intelligent" and "rational", while generally remaining incredibly ignorant outside of their areas of expertise and having the charisma of a rotting pig's backside.
"Ugh, I wish Reddit wasn't full of STEMlords the entire goddamn time."
by nopeidontneedanameok October 15, 2015
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Person 1: I'm so so sorry but I can't have a relationship right now. It's not you it's me
Person 2: that's total bullshit. Just break up with me in an honest way and don't lie
by lewis stylinson August 16, 2015
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A nice way 2 dump a boyfriend/girlfriend. Actually means It's not me it's you.
Look honey it's not you it's me.I don't wish to continue this relationship.
by Allie February 03, 2004
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