Harmful term for the lgbtq+ community that is used to signify that a person that identifies as gay or lesbian had never had sex with the other gender.
The term is considered harmful by members of the community for some of the following reasons (list not exclusive):
It shames people that were not identifying with that one term from the beginning on, making them feel less.
It pushes the stereotype of having to know you were gay or lesbian since forever, not allowing people to have space in order to experiment with their sexuality.
It creates this "elite" of people that were always aware they were gay/lesbian.
It takes away from experiences that closeted and scared lgbtq+ people had, trying to fit in by being with the opposite sex.
The term is considered harmful by members of the community for some of the following reasons (list not exclusive):
It shames people that were not identifying with that one term from the beginning on, making them feel less.
It pushes the stereotype of having to know you were gay or lesbian since forever, not allowing people to have space in order to experiment with their sexuality.
It creates this "elite" of people that were always aware they were gay/lesbian.
It takes away from experiences that closeted and scared lgbtq+ people had, trying to fit in by being with the opposite sex.
by Niel.for.me February 6, 2024
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by AutumnØwl July 6, 2021
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Wears oversized coats she found in a secondhand bin labeled “ARMY.”
Has under-eye circles that could be mistaken for makeup but aren't.
Smokes cigarettes or snusar while explaining why she doesn’t believe in hope but still recycles.
Cites Karin Boye, Anna Akhmatova, and maybe Schopenhauer on the first date.
Core traits include, but are not limited to,
- Quiet desperation
- Deep anti-authoritarianism
- Obsession with ecological collapse
- A strange mix of tenderness and toxicity (sometimes lovebombs)
- A queer, bleak sense of humor that would concern most therapists.
Emotionally: she’s a tragic Slavic film from 1976.
Aesthetically: post-apocalyptic futch.
Politically: anti-fascist, vaguely socialist.
Wears oversized coats she found in a secondhand bin labeled “ARMY.”
Has under-eye circles that could be mistaken for makeup but aren't.
Smokes cigarettes or snusar while explaining why she doesn’t believe in hope but still recycles.
Cites Karin Boye, Anna Akhmatova, and maybe Schopenhauer on the first date.
Core traits include, but are not limited to,
- Quiet desperation
- Deep anti-authoritarianism
- Obsession with ecological collapse
- A strange mix of tenderness and toxicity (sometimes lovebombs)
- A queer, bleak sense of humor that would concern most therapists.
Emotionally: she’s a tragic Slavic film from 1976.
Aesthetically: post-apocalyptic futch.
Politically: anti-fascist, vaguely socialist.
She's chain-smoking by the train tracks reading Death in Venice. God, I think I just spotted a Chernobyl lesbian in the wild.
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John: “Why’d she move to Montana?”
Betty: “Oh, she’s a snowman lesbian. She’s gotta go live somewhere with a lot of snow to have any chance of getting laid.”
Betty: “Oh, she’s a snowman lesbian. She’s gotta go live somewhere with a lot of snow to have any chance of getting laid.”
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