Being a nice person, not because you're altruistic, but because
you don't want to be disliked by those around you.
It makes sense in rurality, where there are few people you can interact with and rely on, making it important that you stay on everyone's good side, as opposed to having more options for friends and colleagues, such as in a city. That being said, hospitality is a part of southern culture due to its requirement in rurality. It often means that people are usually nicer overall, because everyone is used to burying animosity. -just don't piss off a southerner, or it all comes out. Not just the one directed at you, but all the bottled up animosity that's been sealed up.
Southern hospitality can often be seen as being fake, which is valid to an extent, but it's similar to
Japanese culture, where your problems are your own, and what you're going through is not someone else's problem- not wanting to burden others is a common thing in many cultures throughout the world, not just southerners in the
united states.
My friend is annoying and keeps calling at 3am, but I answer anyway and entertain him for a bit before
going back to sleep. It's
annoying as shit, but I can't bring myself to tell him to stop. Call that some southern
hospitality.
