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Pick-me American

A Pick-me American is someone who feels insecure or ashamed for being an American citizen and dunks on the US and fellow Americans to get validation from people in other countries. Some will make videos on social media, blanketing the whole US as a monolithic hellhole with no diversity in state, culture, or ethnicity. They harmfully project their personal experience like it's true everywhere in the States. This creates a false view of Americans abroad, even if it's skewed by Pick-me's self-hatred, causing prejudice or misunderstanding about Americans or the US. Pick-me's have a rose-colored lens when viewing the world vs. the US and tend to cherry-pick topics. They think culture (European)abroad is only authentic. Ignoring cultures like Appalachian, Cajun, Tejano, and indigenous people whose history is older than the founding of the US because it's not Eurocentric. Nothing validates them more than having Europeans agree with them while they bash other Americans. Some pick-me's try hard to show how un-American they are, but when they say something stupid or false and get called out, they say, "I'm just an American🤪" to save themselves.

Americans who want to travel or move abroad are fine. What's wrong is Americans who go abroad and say they're Canadians, bash fellow Americans, or apologize for being born in the US. The US and its people aren't perfect, but what you see online can be skewed to show the bad and wrong, ignoring the good aspects, of which there are many!
Pick-me American examples

Vanessa said calmly, " I don't know why the US always has to be different from the rest of the world. Unlike other Americans; I use metric, not imperial!"

Other Americans watching this pitiful display." Who is going to tell her that we actually use a mixed system like Canada and the UK and use Metric for things such as science, etc, and use US customary, not imperial."

An American Tiktoker trying to earn pity points"Stupid Americans, it's so horrible how they want to put hot sauce on a schnitzel they paid for!"

only to delete her post after getting called out by others.
by Just a normal American April 4, 2024
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Pick me

Usage:
Shaming:
Any loving a man female being shamed by the seething flock of arrogant/snobbish control freak women - she doesn't place above him. (her commitment to the daily choice to love = loyally serving/submitting/tolerating/etc being useful to him - to add to his life, not harm it; not having others on the same level or above him in any way)
Anyone on any level sub to man or not hating men - supportive and pleasing to be with, instead of: impudent, greedy, demanding, egotistical, hedonistic, hubristic, transactional, harmful.. - overall repulsive, expecting simping/slaving for them.
Pecking at her like psychopathic chickens; exploitative or despising men, want to manipulatively impose control upon them (it's all the projections they say about men, but in reverse, being a twisted, incapable of empathy, parody on masculine herself), placing their flock of women above the man.
From either leftover women or insecure women with (naturally too empathetically biased for fem) men they've 'trained' to be an expendable utility. Destructive to any other relationship, that doesn't give them attention or follow imposed template - normalizing hers, they'd probably call you that.
Popularized on tiktok - a mental institution catalog / personal diary of deranged women.

Hypocrisy call-out:
Virtue signaling female, that fakes to love a man for attention or other gain - similar to thot/tradthot. Like looking for soft life pseudo-trad bimbo-for-hire gold diggers.
- You're such a sycophant pick me girl.
- At least I'm not a lazy manhating sadist.
by veinsofgold May 1, 2025
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Pick me

Usage:
Shaming:
Any loving a man female being shamed by the seething flock of arrogant/snobbish control freak women - she doesn't place above him. (her commitment to the daily choice to love = loyally serving/submitting/tolerating/etc being useful to him - to add to his life, not harm it; not having others on the same level or above him in any way)
Anyone on any level sub to man or not hating men - supportive and pleasing to be with, instead of: impudent, greedy, demanding, egotistical, hedonistic, hubristic, transactional, harmful.. - overall repulsive, expecting simping/slaving for them.
Pecking at her like psychopathic chickens; exploitative or despising men, want to manipulatively impose control upon them (it's all the projections they say about men, but in reverse, being a twisted, incapable of empathy, parody on masculine herself), placing their flock of women above the man.
From either leftover women or insecure women with (naturally too empathetically biased for fem) men they've 'trained' to be an expendable utility. Destructive to any other relationship, that doesn't give them attention or follow imposed template - normalizing hers, they'd probably call you that.
Popularized on tiktok - a mental institution catalog / personal diary of deranged women.

Hypocrisy call-out:
Virtue signaling female, that fakes to love a man for attention or other gain - similar to thot/tradthot. Like looking for soft life pseudo-trad bimbo-for-hire gold diggers.
- You're such a sycophant pick me girl.
- At least I'm not a lazy manhating sadist.
by veinsofgold May 3, 2025
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Pick-me girl

You know that book Paul Ryan loves. It was written by that pick-me girl Ayn Rand
by Hellyswife April 22, 2025
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Pick me girl

A girl or woman who goes out of their way to bring down other women in order to get male validation and attention
“Beth is such a pick me. She told me she only has guy friends

“Beth?… I hate to tell you this, but you’re acting like a pick me girl”
by Alex muxh June 16, 2022
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pick me

by shutthefkup August 7, 2022
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