Despite how it looks, irl yan is not a term used to say you are the real depiction of a yandere. IRL YAN is a coined term by the IRL YAN coping community. Reclaiming the term IRL YAN as a way of saying “ I use the term yandere to cope “.
This is because yandere comes from the words yanderu , to be mentally ill or sick. And deredere , to be cute and lovey dovey.
Being mentally ill is not inherently going to make you violent or a bad person and the community uses the fictional exaggeration of yandere to cope with intrusive thoughts , dissociation , OCD , BPD , NPD , codependency , anxiety , and depression… the list goes on. Though the coping mechanism can be used in a somewhat albeit manner , this doesn’t go for everyone within the community.
There are also other communities such as the lovesick recovery community for IRL YANS.
This is because yandere comes from the words yanderu , to be mentally ill or sick. And deredere , to be cute and lovey dovey.
Being mentally ill is not inherently going to make you violent or a bad person and the community uses the fictional exaggeration of yandere to cope with intrusive thoughts , dissociation , OCD , BPD , NPD , codependency , anxiety , and depression… the list goes on. Though the coping mechanism can be used in a somewhat albeit manner , this doesn’t go for everyone within the community.
There are also other communities such as the lovesick recovery community for IRL YANS.
Real IRL YAN : “ yeah I’m an irl yan , I use the term to cope “
Fake IRL YAN : “ UwU I’m a yandere for real stabby stabby “
Toxic IRL YAN usage : “ Yeah , I’m an IRL yan , I will literally try to attack him if he talks to another female “
Healthy IRL yan usage : “ I’m an IRL YAN , but I don’t act out on the belief of actually being the fictional depiction of yandere by using violence. “
Fake IRL YAN : “ UwU I’m a yandere for real stabby stabby “
Toxic IRL YAN usage : “ Yeah , I’m an IRL yan , I will literally try to attack him if he talks to another female “
Healthy IRL yan usage : “ I’m an IRL YAN , but I don’t act out on the belief of actually being the fictional depiction of yandere by using violence. “
by Be educated September 15, 2023
Get the IRL YANmug. A true friend. The best boyfriend you will ever get. Extremely nice yet sometimes a douche. Very caring and sweet, not to forget handsome and tall. He is a very good hugger and is pretty good at fucking. Doesn't really like horror (more like Hates it) and is a sporty lad. Yans girlfriend is a gun, that's why he loves her so much. Will most of the times be there for you even if you're not there for him. He likes the good stuff kinda music and isn't very artistic. He's rather sweet though. He's a very awesome dude.
Yan is the best biyfriend you can get. When you have a Yan don't let him go. Yan is too good in bed!
by lilkiddy October 4, 2017
Get the Yanmug. 
One of the most sweetest and mature people u will meet. They are soft spoken and very caring and nurturing. Also one of the most fun and interesting people ,everyone who has a Yan in their lives as a friend or family member should be grateful . If u know a Yan don't forget to hug them
by Mystique_AJ March 6, 2022
Get the Yanmug. Yan Yi is a tall yet lovely, charming, brilliant, intellectual, diligent, kind, and powerful young lady. She is a forgotten angel on Earth, a person who loves and cares the most for her family, friends, and partner. She has the loveliest smile in the world, and her smile will always allow you to forget about your concerns. She may appear "cool," as if she is a powerful lady who doesn't care or need anybody else. The truth is that she requires the care of a man, not a 'boy' (Just like other girls). She is a lady who dislikes being restricted by others. She will be terrified when she confronts problems, but she will overcome her fear and face the task instead of fleeing. She enjoys trying new things and constantly striving to be the greatest version of herself. Every decision she takes, especially those involving 'Money,' will be carefully considered. All I can say is that whomever is lucky enough to be with her will be the luckiest person in the WORLD. Please cherish her if you have her. SHE IS ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL!!!!
by A boy who still love u November 23, 2021
Get the Yan Yimug. by The yanner May 6, 2022
Get the Yanningmug. A viral video in Gen Z’s clout chasing to Rico Yan’s Tombs, They’re called “Tourist Spot of the Philippines” in Rico Yan’s Tomb.
“Alex went to Rico Yan's grave to take pictures and post them on social media to get attention, and she’s have Rico Yan’s Syndrome”
by the hitman hart July 9, 2024
Get the Rico Yan’s Syndromemug.