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self-help paradox

The age-old conundrum of "people who seek self-improvement vs. people who need self-improvement" --- generally speaking, the people who are conscientious and unashamedly self-examining enough to actively seek ways to improve themselves do not really need to self-improve very much, whereas the people who truly do need to improve themselves will not admit that they even HAVE a self-inadequacy problem, and so they arrogantly/impatiently refuse to seek or accept help in improving their character or behavior (think, the infamous "getters gettin' got" conversation between Madea and Dr. Phil).
Client, to counsellor, at the outset of their weekly meeting: Breaker one-five for reality check --- come on back?
Counsellor, playing along: Yeah, go ahead, Breaker --- reading you wall-to-wall and treetop-tall.
Client: Thanks --- that's a big ten-four, good buddy. Well, I'm in the process of trying to improve myself, and so I thought I'd send a random shout-out over the waves to check my progress. I've been trying to be more sociable and patient and helpful to everyone, visualize things more from their perspective, and so on.
Counsellor: Well, eights and other good numbers to you on THAT one, good buddy --- that's certainly a positive start. Have you tried self-help books?
Client: Oh, a great BIG ten-four THERE, good buddy --- I've read at least a half-dozen of 'em cover-to-cover, and loved every page; the problem, though, is that I never seem to find any new ideas --- most everything in there is stuff I already know about and am actively practicing, so the books just reassuringly confirm the nature and wisdom of my efforts, not provide fresh perspectives for further improvement.
Counsellor: Ah... well, ten-four, good buddy --- I totally "get you" there... the old "self-help paradox", eh?? The only people who'll read those books are ones who don't need 'em!
by QuacksO February 3, 2017
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Self-whore

A person who devotes a large amount of their time to themselves for any reason
"Damn, Adam has stopped hanging out with us and sits plays video games at home all day."
"Yeah, what a self-whore'

" Wow, Katia has been studying a lot recently, she's becoming a self-whore"
"Good for her! I wish I knew how to focus on my work as good as she does"
by CraZboy November 25, 2021
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The act of pissing your pants in bed rather than walking down a dark hallway at night to risk being attack by a demon or other entity. (Springtrap is also a common one) Probably the most common childhood fear
Liam: Ay remember when we were kids and we kinda just accepted our fate and pissed ourselves cause we were afraid of Springtrap or Shane Dawson videos or some shit in the hallway? What would you call that?

Jackson: Nighttime Voluntary Self-pissing
by giddyburger4000 December 2, 2023
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Self-estream

An existential state of being or mindset of limitless confidence.
David Beckham, now that guy exhibits self-estream. I just can't see him getting clammy hands talking to a girl, or not talking to any girl, cause he knows he'll get her...whoever she is and so does she: so he does.
- Self Estream
by noneseriously10 March 14, 2021
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self sufficed

I can do it all by myself, because I am self sufficed.
by Elizalet May 9, 2018
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self snarm

when you harm yourself in the snow
i need to self snarm....the icy winters are calling me....
by danieljohnson January 6, 2024
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Self meltdown

A freak out done all alone, by yourself. No one need be near, because this is all you.
She was making a fried egg sandwich and discovered they were small eggs, the ham want wrapped properly and the bread included seeds, which she didn't like. What followed was a self meltdown of epic proportions.
by Brewton September 24, 2022
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