Someone who is both friend and enemy, a relationship that is both mutually beneficial or dependent while being competitive, fraught with risk and mistrust.
Zack is John's frenemy. They get a long in the office but both of them work on internal competing teams.
by Anonymous Nick May 18, 2007
frenemy
A "friend" a "bad friend" who cares only about themselves. A friend who gets their way no matter the cost, and who they step on along the way. One might stay in a "frenemy" situation because they are fearful of this person. Or they are oblivious to the reality of the situation. A good way to spot “frenemies” is to judge reactions if they don’t get their own way. A frenemy will be in the wrong and wait for you to apologise. They will defriend you on social media and bitch about you, your life and most importantly your relationship behind your back with anyone who will listen. They will be mean to you or lay guilt trips to get their own way. These “frenemies” cannot stand to see you happy without them and are worried they will never have something special like you have. There is jealousy at the root of everything they do and they project a lot of hate towards other people in your life. They will interfere in your relationships and say that they are acting in your best interests. This is a lie. These are also known as a toxic friendship. If something is toxic it needs to be cut away.
A "friend" a "bad friend" who cares only about themselves. A friend who gets their way no matter the cost, and who they step on along the way. One might stay in a "frenemy" situation because they are fearful of this person. Or they are oblivious to the reality of the situation. A good way to spot “frenemies” is to judge reactions if they don’t get their own way. A frenemy will be in the wrong and wait for you to apologise. They will defriend you on social media and bitch about you, your life and most importantly your relationship behind your back with anyone who will listen. They will be mean to you or lay guilt trips to get their own way. These “frenemies” cannot stand to see you happy without them and are worried they will never have something special like you have. There is jealousy at the root of everything they do and they project a lot of hate towards other people in your life. They will interfere in your relationships and say that they are acting in your best interests. This is a lie. These are also known as a toxic friendship. If something is toxic it needs to be cut away.
Classic example 1: when your best friend ruins your relationship because they have their own selfish agenda.
Classic example 2: frenemy will bad mouth your relationship and even lie about your significant other because they know what to say to break it up and keep you to themselves
Classic example 2: frenemy will bad mouth your relationship and even lie about your significant other because they know what to say to break it up and keep you to themselves
by jc231092 April 01, 2013
A person who pretends to be your friend to get connected to other people you may know and then blows you off once they are connected to your friends. They are very smooth and everyone thinks that person is great until they are eventually traded up by this person for another "better" social connection. They are social climbers and usually the social "leader" in the group. No one wants to reveal this actual frenemy for fear of backlash from the rest of the group. The frenemy will actually put you in a bad light to other people behind your back without making it seem like they are talking about you and actually spill anything you may have told them to others without making it seems they are telling a secret. Be aware of the frenemy because they will have your friends alienate you to be their friend. They are fake and although you may be a smart one to recognize them, others may not and exude praise upon them until they've been tricked by the frenemy.
Susan just told me that Vera made her sad by yelling at her for no reason. Susan said all she tried to do was tell Vera that she was wrong about changing her plans to go shopping. Do you think Susan may be Vera's frenemy? Vera hasn't said anything about the argument at all until I spoke with Vera and she stated that she tried to politely inform Susan that she was not up to go shopping without giving details about a personal situation and Susan just kept at her until she blew up. Yet Susan has told the whole group about the fiasco and everyone feels bad for Susan.
by Kimiyasa March 13, 2010
Only time can tell a friend from a frenemy down the road. Do you experience any of these symptoms in your "friendships"?
1) when socializing frenemy eagerly waits for you to say something that he can exploit to his own advantage to make him look smarter and you look dumber, weaker and inferior.
2) Frenemy takes, he doesn't give, if you show up at the pizza parlor and you're hanging out with some friends, all of a sudden you realize, whoops you don't have any dough, so you ask your friend who already has pizza and soda if you can borrow some money for pizza. No is the answer, followed by a joke at your expense. All your other "friends" laugh As you roam around like a jackass watching everyone else eat pizza.
4) competes with you in an unfriendly type of way. Has to one up you if you accomplish something or scoffs and says anyone can do that
5) he talks shit behind your back
6) Acts differently when in groups than with just you
7) Steals shit from your house, car... Borrows things never returns them. Has no respect for anything that is yours because frenemy has no respect for you.
8) Still acts open with you after all this when you encounter him, because he's having too much fun stealing and sabotaging things in your life.
9) I could probably get that girl, but you probably never could because...type of bs
10) Mimics your expressions with offensive exaggeration, like your laugh or things you say to make you feel worse about yourself
1) when socializing frenemy eagerly waits for you to say something that he can exploit to his own advantage to make him look smarter and you look dumber, weaker and inferior.
2) Frenemy takes, he doesn't give, if you show up at the pizza parlor and you're hanging out with some friends, all of a sudden you realize, whoops you don't have any dough, so you ask your friend who already has pizza and soda if you can borrow some money for pizza. No is the answer, followed by a joke at your expense. All your other "friends" laugh As you roam around like a jackass watching everyone else eat pizza.
4) competes with you in an unfriendly type of way. Has to one up you if you accomplish something or scoffs and says anyone can do that
5) he talks shit behind your back
6) Acts differently when in groups than with just you
7) Steals shit from your house, car... Borrows things never returns them. Has no respect for anything that is yours because frenemy has no respect for you.
8) Still acts open with you after all this when you encounter him, because he's having too much fun stealing and sabotaging things in your life.
9) I could probably get that girl, but you probably never could because...type of bs
10) Mimics your expressions with offensive exaggeration, like your laugh or things you say to make you feel worse about yourself
Frenemy: "Hey Jersey, what's happening tonight player? I'm going down to meet all these college girls tonight"
Wiser-xVictim: "where?"
Frenemy: "They're up in Binghamton"
Wiser-xVictim: "Binghamton, that's 5 hours away, what the hell do you want to drive all that way for a bunch of girls you don't even know?"
Frenemy: (frustrated tone) "Because of the girls man, come on!"
Wiser-xVictim: "Oh and you need me to take you up there don't you?"
Frenemy: "Well obviously, player you my boy "
Wiser-xVictim: (scoffs)"Bitch I'm about as much of your friend as a used diaper splattered all over the bathroom is a friend to a janitor at a preschool. You mooching, treacherous, shady, frenemy. This should have been something I told you Mano a mano to your face months ago. Stop wasting my time with your stupid plans, and most importantly stop bothering me. You are about as useful as a hole in the bottom of a coin bag. Don't ever call this number ever again SUCKA! "
Wiser-xVictim: "where?"
Frenemy: "They're up in Binghamton"
Wiser-xVictim: "Binghamton, that's 5 hours away, what the hell do you want to drive all that way for a bunch of girls you don't even know?"
Frenemy: (frustrated tone) "Because of the girls man, come on!"
Wiser-xVictim: "Oh and you need me to take you up there don't you?"
Frenemy: "Well obviously, player you my boy "
Wiser-xVictim: (scoffs)"Bitch I'm about as much of your friend as a used diaper splattered all over the bathroom is a friend to a janitor at a preschool. You mooching, treacherous, shady, frenemy. This should have been something I told you Mano a mano to your face months ago. Stop wasting my time with your stupid plans, and most importantly stop bothering me. You are about as useful as a hole in the bottom of a coin bag. Don't ever call this number ever again SUCKA! "
by MojoMac2323 November 29, 2018
by Nun yah November 21, 2007
Beware of the frenemy
by Deathkandy April 04, 2009
A "friend" a "bad friend" who cares only about themselves. A friend who gets their way no matter the cost, and who they step on along the way. One might stay in a "frenemy" situation because they are fearful of this person. Also known as a toxic friendship.
Classic example: when your best friend steals your boyfriend of three years she was a frenemy all along.
by HSMF's April 02, 2008