When a man attempts to get a girlfriend (or boyfriend) by first being their friend, then hoping to transition that to being their boyfriend. After they've been their friend for a while with no sexual tension being built up, he asks her out, with her saying something along the lines of "I don't think of you that way and I don't want to jeopardize what we have."
The people who've experienced this are almost-exclusively men who don't have many social skills, especially with romance. Many of them have had few (if any) sexual partners, very little self-esteem, not much confidence, a lot of anxiety, and possibly some minor depression (if not severe), which is WHY they have so few social skills.
It's only made worse by the fact that a LOT of women who say "a guy said I friend-zoned him" don't really try to HELP him. Saying you're not interested is one thing, but GENUINELY trying to understand why he's so hurt by that and figuring out ways to help him get a girlfriend is another.
The unspoken aspect of this is that this usually occurs when a modest-looking man tries to attract a more-attractive woman using their personality, since they wouldn't be able to if they just used their looks.
To be fair, women DO put higher importance on personality than men do, and it usually DOES overpower looks in importance, so there's nothing wrong with a guy trying to get a more-attractive woman using his personality, but application of that is very complex.
The people who've experienced this are almost-exclusively men who don't have many social skills, especially with romance. Many of them have had few (if any) sexual partners, very little self-esteem, not much confidence, a lot of anxiety, and possibly some minor depression (if not severe), which is WHY they have so few social skills.
It's only made worse by the fact that a LOT of women who say "a guy said I friend-zoned him" don't really try to HELP him. Saying you're not interested is one thing, but GENUINELY trying to understand why he's so hurt by that and figuring out ways to help him get a girlfriend is another.
The unspoken aspect of this is that this usually occurs when a modest-looking man tries to attract a more-attractive woman using their personality, since they wouldn't be able to if they just used their looks.
To be fair, women DO put higher importance on personality than men do, and it usually DOES overpower looks in importance, so there's nothing wrong with a guy trying to get a more-attractive woman using his personality, but application of that is very complex.
Joshua: "Is that *band shirt/book/food/anything like that*? *Band/book/food/whatever's being referenced* is amazing! I love *band/book/food/etc.*!"
Emmi: "I know, right? You're the first person I've seen get so animated about it!"
***Joshua hasn't said anything that would make Emmi think he finds her attractive-- like being specific about something he likes about her face or body or saying how cute she is in a clever way, or even saying outright that she's sexy-- and hasn't for months.***
Joshua: "So, Ems... I know you've been talking a lot about how lonely you've been over the last few months and how bored you are on the weekends now cuz' you've got nothing to do, so would you like to go on a date with me this Saturday?"
Emmi: "Oooh... Wow... Josh, look, I love you and your one of my besties, and I mean we have so much in common, but I just... I really don't think I can do that. I'm sorry. I don't think that would be a good idea."
Joshua: "... Did you just fucking friend zone me?"
Emmi: "I know, right? You're the first person I've seen get so animated about it!"
***Joshua hasn't said anything that would make Emmi think he finds her attractive-- like being specific about something he likes about her face or body or saying how cute she is in a clever way, or even saying outright that she's sexy-- and hasn't for months.***
Joshua: "So, Ems... I know you've been talking a lot about how lonely you've been over the last few months and how bored you are on the weekends now cuz' you've got nothing to do, so would you like to go on a date with me this Saturday?"
Emmi: "Oooh... Wow... Josh, look, I love you and your one of my besties, and I mean we have so much in common, but I just... I really don't think I can do that. I'm sorry. I don't think that would be a good idea."
Joshua: "... Did you just fucking friend zone me?"
by 681681 August 19, 2017
Get the Friend Zonemug. Most degrading and lowering social zone in the hierarchy.
You are invisible, ignored.
There are two types of that zone, but those can be intergrated.
Both are caused by being perceived different, unusual, exceptional,
strange or eccentric by surrounding people.
The two types are the active and the passive
The active type
Seems to be the hardest, but not. People tell you that you're odd, unliked.
They tell you they don't want to be with you, they don't wont to acknowledge
that you're existing. But they interact with you.
The passive type
The hardest. People don't care so much they don't even tell you that you
are unliked. The just ignore you, unnotice you because they don't value you.
You're not exist. You actually are, but they don't care.
You are invisible, ignored.
There are two types of that zone, but those can be intergrated.
Both are caused by being perceived different, unusual, exceptional,
strange or eccentric by surrounding people.
The two types are the active and the passive
The active type
Seems to be the hardest, but not. People tell you that you're odd, unliked.
They tell you they don't want to be with you, they don't wont to acknowledge
that you're existing. But they interact with you.
The passive type
The hardest. People don't care so much they don't even tell you that you
are unliked. The just ignore you, unnotice you because they don't value you.
You're not exist. You actually are, but they don't care.
i'm being ignored. people that I know are disclaiming
., the fact that I am existing , they absolutely don't like me
.Trapped in the awareness zone, again
., the fact that I am existing , they absolutely don't like me
.Trapped in the awareness zone, again
by Organism Or Something July 12, 2017
Get the awareness zonemug. In basketball: Kinda the same as the "J-zone" but ur concentratin more on the height of ur jump (vertical) than on the timing or fade-away (effectiveness).
"DAAAAAYYYMMMMM he's in the vert zone big time" If you see a really simple dunk but with huge elevation.
by ball4lyf123 May 25, 2009
Get the vert zonemug. by Datsagoblin September 17, 2016
Get the Combat zonemug. by WHALFARG (Bad Company 2) June 30, 2017
Get the tailpipe zonemug. It's the friend zone of friendships. Unlike friend-zoning, which is when someone you want to be your lover says you should just be friends. Acquaintance zoning is when someone who you want to be friends with doesn't even want to be your friend. This can be way more degrading than friend-zoning, usually because being friend-zoned most of the time is because a person knows you more as a friend than a lover. But an Acquaintance Zone is when a person doesn't even want to get to know you and develop a relationship as friends, which can be way more degrading than rejecting a romantic relationship.
"Hey dude! What's up?"
"Could you stop messaging me, please? We are just acquaintances."
"So you just Acquaintance Zoned me?"
"Could you stop messaging me, please? We are just acquaintances."
"So you just Acquaintance Zoned me?"
by epiczander April 5, 2024
Get the Acquaintance Zonemug. by Shengdee September 7, 2013
Get the Reem Zonedmug.