romantic disclosure dilemma

aka. R.D.D. When an individual has a romantic crush on somebody, but does not know how to tell them how they feel about them. It often happens to people who have never asked someone out and has not been in a romantic relationship previously.

Alan: Hey Dima. What is the matter? You have not been yourself all day.

Dima: I have a romantic disclosure dilemma. I've had a crush on Kailani for months now and I want to ask her out before the semester is over, but I have no idea how to tell her how I feel about her.
Alan: You should go on Wikihow and look it up. They usually provide good advice on how to do stuff like that.
Dima: Thanks for the help. I'll try that.

by Vanguard 1998 February 27, 2021

High Romantic Standards Dilemma

A major social problem that arises when an individual sets their romantic expectations and standards too high for decent people, who the individual likes, to be able to achieve. Normally it is fine to have some standards, but when descent people are unable to fulfill those expectations because of the large number of them and or because the expectations require extremely large amounts money and resources, require the individual to be in perfect physical shape that most people are not able to achieve, and or require the individual to be skilled at doing things that most people don’t know how to do that well, then the individual's expectations may be set too high. This is highly unethical to do, because extremely high standards tend to be very unreasonable and can prevent decent people from being able to get into a romantic relationship due to factors far beyond control.

Annabeth: Why is Emma so upset?
Lauren: She was in a relationship with a Johnny, but he dumped her because she supposedly didn't fulfill his expectations. The thing was his expectations were very unreasonable to begin with. He expects his partner to have flat abs, not to talk to other boys at all, and spend most of her time with him.
Annabeth: He sounds very inconsiderate. I am sure she will find someone better than him who knows how to treat their partner with respect. It sounds like Emma is another victim of the High Romantic Standards Dilemma.
Lauren: Agreed.

by Vanguard 1998 March 3, 2021

Ozment Dilemma

Situation in which a person of higher authority (I.e. teacher, manager, boss) decides to sacrifice said authority for the sake of being liked or relatable. Often a pushover that would rather be liked than respected.

Mark is quite the pushover. He really suffers from the Ozment dilemma.

by SpongeBob Squaredude April 28, 2021

appreciation dilemma

This is an occurrence where one feels extreme sadness due to underappreciation while feeling unworthy of praise.

Is it normal to have an appreciation dilemma? Because I feel like it's unusual.

by Summer Vacation May 31, 2021

Thor's Hammer Dilemma

(n) When a sole character uses a trait or object that needs a specific criterion to be met in order for it to be used or wielded, when in actuality many other characters possess the same criteria and thus should be able to also use or wield it. Case in point, Marvel's Thor and his hammer, Mjolnir.

Becomes more glaring when characters who should be able to use the trait or object are shown to not be able to.

Jake: "I have a sword that can only be used by those with a pure heart, great wisdom, and the pursuit of justice. You can try to use it Lloyd, but I doubt you'll muster it..."

Oh. Well, Lloyd also has those attributes, he's honestly better than Jake in terms of wisdom, so he should be able to use that sword.

Lloyd: "Urgh! I can't pick it up!"

Are you fucking kidding me... Another Thor's Hammer Dilemma? Can't these writer's just make these weapons work via DNA or make the surrounding characters less similar?

by theonewhoflops September 20, 2025

The Frank dilemma

**The Frank Dilemma** is a moral question about fictional characters who are mentally much older than their physical age. This often happens with characters who are vampires, immortals, or time travelers. The dilemma asks who these characters can date in a way that feels morally right: should they date people who match their mental age, or people who are the same age as their body looks?

Five from The Umbrella academy is often the subject of The Frank dilemma among fan conversations.

by Skinnystem January 22, 2025

Builder's Dilemma

Acceptance of inevitable destruction.

When you know that something is inevitably going to ruin what you have done, but you do it anyway for whatever reason you may have.

A builder knows what they build won't last forever, regardless they build. Maybe it's for money, maybe it's for love, maybe they build just for the sake of it, nevertheless they do it anyway.

"Mark built a sandcastle even though he knew a wave will just wash it off at some point. One can say he had the Builder's Dilemma in mind, a Sandcastle Mentality even."

by Urine_Gaming June 1, 2024