Cold Approach

Walking up to random girl at the bar and Chettying her up

Yooo are we ripping Cold Approaches tonight?!?!

Obviously

by ChettyTok March 25, 2025

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grandmother approach

Where you bring an older lady along with you on a potentially-problematic endeavor, so that any observers will feel less concerned/suspicious.distrustful of you and what you are wanting to accomplish. P.S.: This strategy **always** works --- no exceptions.

I first discovered the grandmother approach --- and how wonderfully effective it is for "opening doors" --- merely by accident at age 15, when Mother and I went to meet one of my favorite radio-announcers "after hours" ; the announcer had kindly agreed to come down the elevator and meet me outside during her break, and so my mother and I had gone to wait outside the front doors of the building. A burly security-guard or maintenance-man subsequently happened by and pleasantly asked if he could help us; we explained that we were waiting for my announcer-friend to come and say hello to us. Without hesitation, he said, "Well, there's no need for you to have to wait outdoors here; I can let you in and you can go up to the studio to wait." I am sure, however, that if I had just been there by myself, the employee would not have felt nearly so confident or trusting of me that he would have actually just allowed me to effortlessly "waltz right in" like that; I realized that it was my super-respectable-looking mother's presence that had caused the man to "automatically" figure that "we were okay". I have employed this "bringing an older lady along" strategy several times in subsequent years whenever I have been concerned about possible negativity/suspicion from others regading something I'd wanted to do, and it has ALWAYS succeeded --- people everywhere feel an automatic compulsion to respect an older lady, plus of course they would not want to behave disagreeably in front of her.

by QuacksO February 21, 2019

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Approach to Knowledge

Yeah yeah I totally get that man. You got the 2 types right? Michael Malice was talking about this, right? Where you got the 2 types of people, right? Like, the first guy looks at what's around him and deduces conclusions. Like ME! And the other guy has a worldview in his head and he tries to make reality comport with that worldview.... Like the guy who's trying to use Nikki Haley to pass his anti-online anonymity legislation. Or the conservatives trying to legislate and boycott the gays away. What is the name of that guy.... Oh wait! It's Dr. Jordan! He's the one doing that! He tried to frame it as though it's the communists doing the thing be HE'S the one trying to force reality to comport with his vision.

Hym "Yeah, that approach to knowledge where you try to do that thing you're doing is dogshit. That's largely the problem here."

by Hym Iam December 25, 2023

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approach-avoidance defensive conflict

Being a backronym of AADC (the title of an Indonesian movie), "approach-avoidance defensive conflict" refers to the psychological struggle where a single goal has both positive and negative aspects, causing a person to be both drawn to and repelled by it. This internal tension leads to stress and indecision as the individual weighs the pros and cons, and the conflict often results in periods of back-and-forth thinking. Examples include wanting a promotion but dreading the longer hours, or wanting a vacation but being discouraged by the high cost.

She faced an approach-avoidance defensive conflict when she considered accepting the job offer; the salary was great, but the thought of a longer commute made her hesitate.

by Emotional Cruiser October 25, 2025

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