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Someone who realizes they are gay, lesbian, bisexual, genderqueer, trans, or otherwise queer later in life or after making major life decisions like entering a straight marriage.

Sometimes the person noticed they might be GLBTQ early on, but didn't realize it warranted real consideration. Other times the realization seems to come out of the blue.

QueerL can also be used to describe someone who meets the above definition, or to describe their life situation.

Usually queerLs start a path of self-discovery which sometimes includes an affair, open, or poly relationship, and often results in eventually coming out of the closet and becoming a part of the larger queer community. Other queerLs chose to just keep the knowledge of their sexuality to themselves indefinitely. QueerLs are often isolated, many have never met (or realized they knew) another GLBTQ person.

QueerL people often face more complex issues in their personal life as a result of coming out later in life than people who come out earlier in life.
Jane is queerL. She was married to a man for 25 years and then realized she was actually a lesbian when she met Sue!
QueerL by dandelionjoy February 26, 2009
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Zero Beer Queer 

A gay person that does not drink beer.
Zero Beer Queer by Mique Zee December 5, 2020

Zero Beer Queer 

Unlike the common two beer queer, these fabulous creatures do not need alcohol to embrace their queerness.
Zero Beer Queer by Mique Zee December 4, 2020

Diesel Queer 

A homo who walks around in gym gear all day and attempts to mass enough muscle to look like the Incredible Hulk.
That diesel queer is so big i betcha he benches his boyfriend (Eric) everynight.
Diesel Queer by RepoMan January 26, 2005

queerbaiting 

1. A marketing technique used to attract queer viewers that involves creating romantic or sexual tension between two same-sex characters but never making it canon or evolving on it
2. when straight men or women pretend to be gay and flirt with people of the same sex as a joke
1. "There is a lot of queerbaiting in shows like Sherlock and Voltron."
2. "I got queerbaited by someone and it really hurt my feelings."
queerbaiting by pissbaby123 May 4, 2020

queenlight

To validate a woman's feelings with sincere intent to encourage, reassure, and uplift.
Antithesis of gaslight.

Related for Men: Kinglight
Initially stressed and unsure, after a heart to heart with her friends that queenlighted her, she felt ready to move on and conquer the night.
queenlight by PandaZoukini August 13, 2021

Queer as fuck 

more queer than most folk, possibly the queerest person in the room at any one point
You're so queer, you're so here, you're so queer as fuck.
Queer as fuck by jaffaw July 14, 2009