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1.
The notion that homosexuals should be able to define their identities by something other than sexual preference.

Post-gay types ought to be comfortable in gay ghetto situations, lest they suffer some sort of internalized homophobia, while realizing that many ghettoized gays are tasteless loosers.

Post-gays are out of the closet and care about gay rights and gay issues. Their stance on identity and culture is a reaction against the fetishization of gay stereotypes by some self-proclaimed liberal types (such as faghags) as well as cultural sepratists (such as queers). They tend to refer to themselves as 'gay' and only invoke the word 'post-gay' in the presense of the tasteless losers who have co-opted the falsehood of a monolithic gay culture.

Post-gays also realize the history of the struggle for gay equality and know they their attitude can only exist in enviornments where gays are already integrated and accepted. It is only within these enviornments that they critique others.
Get rid of your affectations, you live in fucking NYC (or SF or Seattle or Paris or Berlin), and there are like 5 neighborhoods where gay couples regularly hold-hands, unless your only friends are stock brokers it's no big deal here, it's all about post-gay now!
by Hater101 October 22, 2006
 
2.
Term used to describe same-gender-loving individuals that do not identify or associate with mainstream gay culture.

A "not so" judgmental or cunty gay man who is not flashy and doesn't act stuck up or above others.

This man would not be very flamboyant.

I can't stand going to gay clubs. Everyone seems too cool for school. I'd much rather hang out with other post gay men. They're not cunts.
by Jack Klakamp November 13, 2007
 
3.
A concept in contemporary culture characterized by a distrust of the need to draw attention to or make issue of sexual orientation.

A way to describe qualities or characteristics that may stereotypically be regarded as gay while simultaneously implying that labels based on sexual identity are unnecessary, old fashioned or irrelevant.
Sam: Did you watch American Idol last night? Adam Lambert is such a fag!

Susan: Grow up! Adam is a fantastic performer. He's totally post gay.
by PJMillar April 24, 2009
 
4.
Being too gay for one or a group's own good; excessive gayness to a degree that cannot be tolerated by one's peers, subject to exile.
You threw *your* shirt at Morrissey during a concert? You are so post-gay. I don't know you any more.
by JLP and TW February 21, 2007