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Second Hand Embarrassment 

When you feel so embarrassed for someone else's actions that you feel the embarrassment for yourself as well.
Stefanie is singing loudly in Portuguese! I feel second hand embarrassment... I can't be in the same room right now.

vicarious embarrassment 

The very uncomfortable sympathetic feeling experienced while you watch someone else embarrassing themselves. This feeling is often intensified when the person embarrassing themself is not aware of how embarrassing their behavior is. In this case it is more like you are feeling the embarrassment on their behalf.
George: OMG, dude...this talent show is killing me. The fat girl dancing to 'Ice, Ice, Baby'...
Dude: I know man, I know...all the wrong things are jiggling--
George: --And her dancing! Everyone is laughing and she just keeps going. It's like a trainwreck right now. I don't even want to watch!
Dude: Total vicarious embarrassment right now, man.
George: Ugh. Let me know when it's over.
vicarious embarrassment by cuntwurst November 17, 2011

secondhand embarrassment 

The personal embarrassment that one feels on account of and for another (i.e. a friend, a family member or a complete stranger) who is making a fool of him or herself. A person experiencing secondhand embarrassment feels as if they are doing the embarrassing action themselves, effectively putting themselves in the other person's shoes.
Guy 1: Man, Sarah's presentation today was terrible. She forgot half of it and stumbled through the rest.
Guy 2: Oh I know. I had so much secondhand embarrassment for her. It was like watching a train wreck.

Second-Hand Embarassment 

To be embarassed for someone else.
I felt such second-hand embarassment when I saw John asking the most popular girl in school out that I had to look away.

2nd hand embarrassment 

Someone else embarrassing the shit out of themselves, so much that you get extremely embarrassed for them.
“Did you see her dress? It’s so ugly, I literally got 2nd hand embarrassment.”
2nd hand embarrassment by Yoyoyoboys December 22, 2018

Third Party Embarrassment 

Third party embarrassment is similar to second hand embarrassment. However, the third party does not witness the embarrassing act. The second person tranfers the embarrassment to the third party via communication ie: phone,text,email or in person after the initial act of embarrassment has taken place.
Guy 1: While giving a speech during a meeting at work farts really loud

Guy 2: a co worker also in the meeting experiences second hand embarrassment for guy 1.
Guy 2: shortly after the meeting, tells another coworker what happened during his meeting who was not present.
Guy 3: experiences third party emabarrassment.

Please note:

For third party Embarrassment to happen, Second Hand Embarrassment must occur before hand.
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