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Comphet stands for “compulsory heterosexuality.” It has it’s own definition on Wikipedia or whatever, and that’s generally correct, but not entirely.

Comphet is a term generally used in lesbian circles that refers to when a lesbian is led to think that she’s attracted to men. This can manifest in her also knowing she’s into women, and thinking she’s bi, or her not even recognizing she’s into women, and thinking she’s straight. This experience can be hard for them to go through.

This happens to gay men to an extent as well, but not nearly as often or strongly.
Person 1: Why did you date Boy? You’re a lesbian, right?
Lesbian: Oh, that was just comphet.
Comphet by Foster-Florence October 28, 2020
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Short for “compulsory heterosexuality.” This is “the idea that heterosexuality is assumed and enforced by a patriarchal society. This refers to the idea that heterosexuality can be adopted by people regardless of their personal sexual preferences from Wikipedia.”
Friend 1: I know I’m only attracted to girls, but I’ve been weirdly obsessed with Chris Hemsworth lately.

Friend 2: Sounds like a comphet crush to me.
comphet by writer1564 March 11, 2018
short for compulsory heteronormativity, society making bright straight the default
Lesbian confusion can be due to the comphet in the world
comphet by oswald~ November 4, 2020
Comphet stands for “compulsory heterosexuality.” It has it’s own definition on Wikipedia or whatever, and that’s generally correct, but not entirely.

Comphet is a term generally used in lesbian circles that refers to when a lesbian is led to think that she’s attracted to men. This can manifest in her also knowing she’s into women, and thinking she’s bi, or her not even recognizing she’s into women, and thinking she’s straight. This experience can be hard for them to go through.

This happens to gay men to an extent as well, but not nearly as often or strongly.
Person 1: Why did you date Boy? You’re a lesbian, right?
Lesbian: Oh, that was just comphet.
comphet by nagitoismid January 7, 2022
The assumption, described by some feminist and queer academics that heterosexuality is socially compulsorary.
1st year cultural studies student: OMG I didn't realise comphet was compulsory. Do I have to repeat the whole year.
Comphet by Orrissar March 4, 2022
It's an acronym for Compulsory Heterosexuality. It's a form of masking that lesbians develop because of cultural pressures to be in romantic relationships with men.

Note-

Gay men can experience this, but not in the same way as lesbians do, since it's part of the intersectionality of patriarchy and queerness.
Person 1: Hatchi is definitely bi she raves about how she's in love with so many men.

Person 2: She stated "No matter how hot a guy is, I wouldn't like him if he was empty inside", she clearly was dealing with comphet.

Person 1: Oh that makes sense. She had fantasies about Nana, but didn't with any men she had been with.
Comphet by digitalghost69 April 27, 2024

comphet crush 

google what comphet is first and then come back.

When a lesbian has a platonic crush on a guy due to their compulsory heterosexuality (comphet). Normally it’s a celebrity or a fictional character who they will never meet and that they know they will never actually have a relationship with.
“oh my god have you seen dylan o’brien??? he’s so hot.”
“wait aren’t you a lesbian tho?”

“yeah he’s just my comphet crush, i would never actually date him”
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