A subgenre of "nice guys" that tries too hard to be in touch with their feminine side or pretends to like things like K-Pop, tote bags, reading, matcha, Laufey, or the like to improve their popularity with girls. This will often mean ditching their true selves to put up a facade for their partner 24/7 and may lead to strain in relationships when their partner learns that he was only acting in that manner to get some action.
Guy 1: "OMG, you wanna go to the salon and listen to Clairo later? We could go get matcha after that."
Guy 2: "mf didn't you cheat on your last girlfriend a week ago?? You're such a Performative Male."
Guy 2: "mf didn't you cheat on your last girlfriend a week ago?? You're such a Performative Male."
by Mr. Defender July 14, 2025