A person who is married to someone in the service who doesn't just depend on their spouse for financial support, but pretty much relies on them for it. They start out all cute and All-American until after the wedding, then it's like cookies, couch and coach purses. Arguing with other dependas over Facebook all day over who's the bigger dependa. They're generally not educated and have no goals or aspirations in life. They live their lives through their husband's successes and think they rank and are better than "civilians" when they themselves are in face...still civilians.

You can usually find them at the PX and/or commissary like a herd of cattle during every pay period blowing their spouse's paycheck on oreos, Coach and Michael Kors and then complaining 2 days after "they" got paid that they're broke and need someone to deliver them free diapers for their 6th baby. (also see "dependa-twat", "dependasaurus" and "dependapotomus")
-"My husband and I just got married last month, what are some websites that give free stuff to military wives?"
--"Shut up dependa."

-"I got married to My Marine, he's going to take care of me now. No more working at Taco Bell for this girl!"
by ricebarbiee January 15, 2014
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A dependa is the "Karen" of military spouses (except civilian-spoused Karens don't expect you to salute them).

The term dependa isn't necessarily about the dependant status, but the attitude carried with it. Dependas are often called out for participating in a form of Stolen Valor, by expecting the respect and thanks that their spouses get for their "service to their country". They wear their spouse's uniform items for extra likes on social platforms, and make sure to post a family photo every veterans day expecting "Thank you for your service" comments. They have a greatly overestimated self-importance and see themselves as an asset to the military instead of additional paperwork and a drain on the system. They fail to see that single service members exist and are easier for the military to employ than those with dependents. They often use "we" statements in regards to things their spouses do in the military to make themselves feel more special. They often claim to have "the hardest job in the military" and don't see this as an insult to people who actually serve.

Find dependas in their natural habitats: on their couches scrolling the fb spouse pages for drama, having freakouts on base employees at the bx/px food courts, and demanding to be given exemptions to the base rules with the tagline: "Do you know who my husband is???🤡"

The pre-evolved form of a "Dependopotamus".
"Great! Another raging dependa in the unit.🙄"-says a 1st sgt who is about to ruin the life of their soldier for how annoying his new wife is being.
by Gilby3 January 7, 2022
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A military spouse who is a defendant of his or her active duty spouse
Michelle's a dependa since her husband is in the Air Force.
by MichellePresnell May 6, 2016
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Wives and Girlfriends of Members of the Military who think that just because they are WITH a Soldier that they are the same rank and are entitled to the same respect as their soldier.
if their soldier is a officer, the Dependa-twat thinks that everyone has to respect and salute them too
by Bishop2014 February 2, 2015
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Military wife who stays at home Ith no job and complains that her husband is away on deployment and says she misses him, but bangs every Jody she can find
Mary: "wow, I wish my husband was home. I miss him so much"

Jody: "sucking my dick will make you feel better"

Mary:"you're right!!"
Husband in Iraq: "I think shes banging Jody, I honestly do"

Husbands friend: I hate to say it but she's a dependa ho"
by millerk4 December 18, 2014
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A Karen who is a military wife. She thinks she is her husband’s rank and that the base is her personal playground. If you disagree with her she will make your life a nightmare and act like a victim when called out. Hate that a dependa Karen gives is mostly online in the base’s private Facebook groups, but she is also unpleasant to get along with in real life. She usually spreads Christian hate while sporting designer handbags and a car she cannot afford on her husband’s salary, which is rarely above an E-4 rank.
Sara: Did you hear about Ariana on the bases’s private group? She’s starting drama with anyone who doesn’t like it here. Watch out she’s on the digital warpath.

Amy: Wow she is such a dependa Karen.
by Neko:3 March 5, 2022
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The spouse of a retired service member that still remains as an integral part of the Dependa Online Community.

This dependa typically considers themselves a “professional dependa”, even though they often haven’t stepped couch surfed with a hand on the phone with the other hand in the bag of Doritos since retirement.
Retired dependa: As a professional spouse (dependa), you should listen to me instead of complaining about (fill in the blank) and learn to appreciate your Jody.
by TheMadHatter987654321 July 5, 2023
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