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A dependa is the "Karen" of military spouses (except civilian-spoused Karens don't expect you to salute them).

The term dependa isn't necessarily about the dependant status, but the attitude carried with it. Dependas are often called out for participating in a form of Stolen Valor, by expecting the respect and thanks that their spouses get for their "service to their country". They wear their spouse's uniform items for extra likes on social platforms, and make sure to post a family photo every veterans day expecting "Thank you for your service" comments. They have a greatly overestimated self-importance and see themselves as an asset to the military instead of additional paperwork and a drain on the system. They fail to see that single service members exist and are easier for the military to employ than those with dependents. They often use "we" statements in regards to things their spouses do in the military to make themselves feel more special. They often claim to have "the hardest job in the military" and don't see this as an insult to people who actually serve.

Find dependas in their natural habitats: on their couches scrolling the fb spouse pages for drama, having freakouts on base employees at the bx/px food courts, and demanding to be given exemptions to the base rules with the tagline: "Do you know who my husband is???🤡"

The pre-evolved form of a "Dependopotamus".
"Great! Another raging dependa in the unit.🙄"-says a 1st sgt who is about to ruin the life of their soldier for how annoying his new wife is being.
by Gilby3 January 7, 2022
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