A phrase used when a friend shows significant signs of emotional distress linked to sexuality, sexual/romantic frustration, or even intimate isolation.

It generally means to take charge of who you want to be in regards to sexual identity, how you want to be treated, and how you project yourself on a sexual/romantic level.
The phrase can be applied to both sexes, but refers specifically to someone who is either the submissive partner in a relationship, or desires to be the submissive partner in either a current or future relationship.
Tim: I’ve been going through a lot lately. I don’t feel like I have control of who I am as a person.
Lucas: I know man, you aren’t very good at hiding it. Shit like this is rough, but you got to remember who’s in control of you. Be your own bitch!
Tim: Be my own bitch?
Lucas: Be your own bitch!
Tim: Be my own bitch!
Sarah: What are you guys talking about?
Tim and Lucas: Be your own bitch!
by sunnA sunU December 23, 2021
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