The Cult of Niceness is a recent phenomenon mentioned in a write-up by Bruce Frohnen about how some people prioritize "niceness" over doing what is right, masking a very deceptive act of discrimination that pretends to care about everyone equally while in fact favoring certain people who are unethical to help them get away with murder over others who are ethical and deserving of good treatment.
The phenomenon does not take into account that if you are "nice" to the wrong person (e.g. a thief, a corrupt officer, or a bad manager) or at the wrong time (like after someone caused harm to others or damaged people's properties), you are actually not being nice to the good people who would negatively get impacted by being nice to a bad person at the wrong time. In other words, the "niceness" that the Cult of Niceness promotes is not even real niceness at all. It is only a corrupt shallow naive version of niceness that is not good at all and is only meant to excuse the evil actions of evil people.
Usually, there are benefactors indirectly benefiting from the Cult of Niceness, whether financially when people are not reprimanded for falling for certain addictions (e.g. porn) or immorally when normalizing and excusing certain immoral behaviors.
Members of the Cult of Niceness hypocritically do what they decry by yelling rudely and angrily at the person they perceive as "not nice" without being nice themselves, negating their credibility and becoming easily ignorable by everyone.
The phenomenon does not take into account that if you are "nice" to the wrong person (e.g. a thief, a corrupt officer, or a bad manager) or at the wrong time (like after someone caused harm to others or damaged people's properties), you are actually not being nice to the good people who would negatively get impacted by being nice to a bad person at the wrong time. In other words, the "niceness" that the Cult of Niceness promotes is not even real niceness at all. It is only a corrupt shallow naive version of niceness that is not good at all and is only meant to excuse the evil actions of evil people.
Usually, there are benefactors indirectly benefiting from the Cult of Niceness, whether financially when people are not reprimanded for falling for certain addictions (e.g. porn) or immorally when normalizing and excusing certain immoral behaviors.
Members of the Cult of Niceness hypocritically do what they decry by yelling rudely and angrily at the person they perceive as "not nice" without being nice themselves, negating their credibility and becoming easily ignorable by everyone.
In the 2010s, the Cult of Niceness became popular in online social media networks as mobs of unethical people would harass certain ethical people they deemed weak, unconnected-to-high-level-people, and worthy of being hated (while hypocritically claiming they were against hate). And, if the harassed people tried to defend themselves against the rude comments of the unethical people, they'd get suddenly called out for not being "nice" while the unethical rude harassers are let off the hook as "simply expressing themselves" and "not being hateful" despite their obvious hating on the ethical people they harassed.
---
A home owner got robbed through breaking and entering, and when they found the thief leaving with their belongings, they yelled at the thief to drop everything they took, but then immediately, the Cult of Niceness police cut the home owner off and asked them to be "nice" by not yelling at the thief rudely, thus allowing the thief to escape.
---
Someone on a mountain was running towards a cliff that they were not aware of, so another person loudly yelled at the runner to warn them they were going to fall off a cliff, but members of the Cult of Niceness immediately cut that person off before they finished their warning to inform them they were not being "nice" to the runner due to yelling rudely, which prevented the runner from hearing the warning that was about to save their life, and ended up falling off the cliff, benefiting benefactors of the Cult of Niceness.
---
A home owner got robbed through breaking and entering, and when they found the thief leaving with their belongings, they yelled at the thief to drop everything they took, but then immediately, the Cult of Niceness police cut the home owner off and asked them to be "nice" by not yelling at the thief rudely, thus allowing the thief to escape.
---
Someone on a mountain was running towards a cliff that they were not aware of, so another person loudly yelled at the runner to warn them they were going to fall off a cliff, but members of the Cult of Niceness immediately cut that person off before they finished their warning to inform them they were not being "nice" to the runner due to yelling rudely, which prevented the runner from hearing the warning that was about to save their life, and ended up falling off the cliff, benefiting benefactors of the Cult of Niceness.
by OffBeatDrummer May 15, 2023
by TromboneTree April 26, 2017
by Paul September 08, 2004
by felchmeister General October 22, 2003
A man who you can call late at night just because you're looking for someone to talk to. He would never speak ill of anyone, never harm a person unless absolutely necessary, never cheat and is always honest. Will help you move just because you're friends and doesn't ask for favors in return. Isn't sleazy and wouldn't take advantage of a person in a drunken or mourning state.
Often times, this nice guy doesn't have a girlfriend because women usually go for jerks and just make friends with the nice guy.
Often times, this nice guy doesn't have a girlfriend because women usually go for jerks and just make friends with the nice guy.
by kavakale July 15, 2004
An unattractive, emotionally stunted straight male who whines to female friends and dates, "Girls only like assholes. They don't like nice guys like me." Unlike genuinely kind and intelligent men, who easily find themselves in serious relationships, a "nice guy" wards women off with his abrasive personality, self-pity, and/or slovenly appearance, and blames his sexual rejection on the failings of womankind, while simultaneously imagining himself as nothing but God's gift to them. "If only those dumb bitches knew that I'd treat them right!"
Once in a relationship, a "nice guy" tends to either be verbally abusive or extremely clingy and overbearing.
Once in a relationship, a "nice guy" tends to either be verbally abusive or extremely clingy and overbearing.
Go into any mixed group of friends. Say that the statement "girls don't like nice guys" is false. The first guy to cry, "But it's true!" is always the most unattractive person in the group, without fail.
by heyprettybaby December 06, 2010
I dated a nice guy, and it was the best desicision of my life. I'm a woman, and a rather attractive one at that. I used to be the stereotypical cheerleader, you know, with the long blonde hair and more pep than state in space. Anyways, I used to date all the jocks at high school. They were the big manly men, and yes, I had sex with a lot of them. When I was 18, I began strangely feeling slightly disatisfied with my QB BF's. They were the best guys around as my girlfriends would say to me. I had only one male friend who wasn't an athlete I dated or had sex with. I felt like I could tell anything to him. No matter how bad my problems were, he could take them and return a solution to me. Even when grandma died in a car crash, he was there for me. Come to think of it, he really loved me. I feel kinda bad that I didn't realize it at the time. But it doesn't matter now that I'm married to him. He's the kindest, most logical, most loving, best man I could ask for. He said himself that when western civilization comes crashing down, he's going to be holding two things: A gun to protect me in one hand and me in the other. Ladies, if you're reading this, please, for fuck's sakes, actually give nice guy's a fair fighting chance. They won't betray or hurt you. They'll be there for you. They're the most wonderful men ever and I've happy to be married to one.
by Katy132 August 27, 2009