An abusive male behind closed doors (typically a former incel) who overcompensates by acting winsome or pseudo intellectual in public.
Karen: Aw, isn't Steve adorkable?
Me: That softboi has wokefished you too? He sent dick pics to my grandmother last week!
Me: That softboi has wokefished you too? He sent dick pics to my grandmother last week!
by Notyourdoormat February 1, 2022
An 'effeminate' cis man who weaponizes his (pose of) emotional intelligence and pseudo-intellectualism in order to lure women into bed (or, failing that, into sending nude photographs). He presents his extreme horny-ness as a romantic sensibility. If his attempt at seduction proves a failure, the softboi may become defensive and even abusive, displaying an incel-like entitlement to sex.
Hobbies include: writing terrible poetry, pretending to read Nietzche, listening to The Smiths, wearing chipped black nail varnish as though its a radical statement, smoking rollies, gas-lighting, wanting a medal for calling himself a 'feminist' while actually being a raging misogynist, proclaiming himself a sex-god while repeatedly failing to locate the clitoris, starting sentences with phrases such as 'you probably have't heard of insert incredibly well-known musician/writer/director'.
Hobbies include: writing terrible poetry, pretending to read Nietzche, listening to The Smiths, wearing chipped black nail varnish as though its a radical statement, smoking rollies, gas-lighting, wanting a medal for calling himself a 'feminist' while actually being a raging misogynist, proclaiming himself a sex-god while repeatedly failing to locate the clitoris, starting sentences with phrases such as 'you probably have't heard of insert incredibly well-known musician/writer/director'.
'He literally said to me 'I'm not like other guys' - total Softboi'
'Oh god... I think I went on a tinder date with that Softboi. He asked me if I'd heard of Tarantino.'
'Oh god... I think I went on a tinder date with that Softboi. He asked me if I'd heard of Tarantino.'
by reputablesource July 7, 2022
An E-softboi is pretty much the softboi and th E-boy combined, the aesthetic of the softboi without the fuccboi personality
by Softboi November 18, 2019
the opposite of a brogrammer.
An atypical software engineer, who doesn't identify with the leetcode grind, goes on tinder dates and does things outside of being a techies.
An atypical software engineer, who doesn't identify with the leetcode grind, goes on tinder dates and does things outside of being a techies.
boy: ya I do yoga and read tarot cards. I don't wanna talk about my tech job.
girl: you're a softboi engineer
girl: you're a softboi engineer