We’ve always conditioned men to maintain women—this isn’t something new. What’s different is this “maintenance” has become completely electronic for some men, and the men doing the “maintaining” aren’t seeing or even making an effort to see the women they are connecting with. Men are just texting, emailing or using social media to give the impression they are checking in or they care—in order to maintain these women.
For these men, the definition of “maintenance” has shifted from traditional strategies like sending gifts and engaging in the occasional dinner, drinks or movie, to this incredibly convenient and empty form of communication based on text messages, emails, and social media: e-maintaining. And it is a mode of communication that isn’t even based in reality.
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For these men, the definition of “maintenance” has shifted from traditional strategies like sending gifts and engaging in the occasional dinner, drinks or movie, to this incredibly convenient and empty form of communication based on text messages, emails, and social media: e-maintaining. And it is a mode of communication that isn’t even based in reality.
Coined by Yashar Ali
Since their last night together, Michael kept in touch with Karen on a regular basis. Every couple of weeks, Karen received a text or email from him. The messages always started out the same way, “What’s up?”
Karen would always fill him in on her life, and Michael would always respond with the same short answer, “That’s cool.”
After one or two text messages, Michael would usually disappear. But a couple of weeks later, he would show up again. Sometimes their conversations would go deeper—ten minutes of texting back and forth. Karen would find hope in those longer texting sessions, thinking that he was finally engaging with her.
A couple times he even texted, “We should have dinner soon.”
But every time Karen agreed to dinner, Michael would tell her about his really busy month at work, delaying the need to schedule a real date. Then, he would never follow up.
This faux-relationship wasn’t going anywhere and Karen was left feeling confused and frustrated about Michael’s intentions.
But these sporadic texts weren’t even about sex. Michael never even proposed any sort of rendezvous. And Karen’s motivation was certainly not friendship. “I have enough friends,” she said.
“He’s not even trying to sleep with me, what’s the point of all this?”
I told her, “Karen you’re being e-maintained”
Karen would always fill him in on her life, and Michael would always respond with the same short answer, “That’s cool.”
After one or two text messages, Michael would usually disappear. But a couple of weeks later, he would show up again. Sometimes their conversations would go deeper—ten minutes of texting back and forth. Karen would find hope in those longer texting sessions, thinking that he was finally engaging with her.
A couple times he even texted, “We should have dinner soon.”
But every time Karen agreed to dinner, Michael would tell her about his really busy month at work, delaying the need to schedule a real date. Then, he would never follow up.
This faux-relationship wasn’t going anywhere and Karen was left feeling confused and frustrated about Michael’s intentions.
But these sporadic texts weren’t even about sex. Michael never even proposed any sort of rendezvous. And Karen’s motivation was certainly not friendship. “I have enough friends,” she said.
“He’s not even trying to sleep with me, what’s the point of all this?”
I told her, “Karen you’re being e-maintained”
by Caramello October 11, 2013
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An E-mail started to scare people. In the past they were filled with scary images of what could happen if you did not send to the desired amount of people. Now they are filled with sad stories or jokes that have a tag along that tells you have to send to desired amount of people or something bad will happen.
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Who's there?
Ugot
Ugot Who?
Ugot to send this to 15 people in the next 12 minutes or your balls will fall off.
Who's there?
Ugot
Ugot Who?
Ugot to send this to 15 people in the next 12 minutes or your balls will fall off.
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Get the G.E. Toms mug.Electronic thug. A pale, pimple faced, skinny white kid who would most likely burn up if he came into contact with natural sunlight. Spends all of his time threatening people over the internet to compensate for his lack of a life and hatred of humanity for not accepting him.
guy on message board: "I disagree with your thoughts on the current subject of discussion"
e-thug: "WTF FAGGOT I'LL FUCKING KILL YOU YOU FUCKING FAGGOT ASS GAY PANSIE LOL FUCKIN POS ILL FUCKIN CUT OFF YOUR COCK AND RAM IT DOWN YOUR THROAT WHERE DO U LIVE I'LL COME DO IT RIGHT NOW FUCKING SHITHEAD"
e-thug: "WTF FAGGOT I'LL FUCKING KILL YOU YOU FUCKING FAGGOT ASS GAY PANSIE LOL FUCKIN POS ILL FUCKIN CUT OFF YOUR COCK AND RAM IT DOWN YOUR THROAT WHERE DO U LIVE I'LL COME DO IT RIGHT NOW FUCKING SHITHEAD"
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Get the e-thug mug.Born Eric Wright. Eazy E was born in Compton on September 7, 1963. A former drug pusher and 10th grade dropout Eazy puts his stuff together with Ice Cube and Dr Dre to make "Boyz n the Hood'. Eric W. meets J Heller and together they form Ruthless Records.With a new label and Dre, Ice Cube, Dj YElla,Eazy E, and MC Ren, the West Coast gangsta rap group N.W.A releases Straight Outta Compton a controversial album of ghetto LA life. The group releases the single "Fuck tha Police" which leads to the FBI sending a warning letter to Ruthless. Eazy released 'Eazy duz it' his only complete solo album in 88. Ice Cubes leaves NWA which leads to Dr. Dre also leaving NWA. Eazy's career was in trouble now, with Dre gone no one could produce the beats. This lead to Ruthless spirlaing downward. In desperation Eazy signs Bone Thugs n Harmony, which becomes a huge group.Eazy releases tracks once in a while, but in mid March of 95 Eazy finds out he has AIDS and 10 days later he dies of AIDS related lung illness. RIP EAZY 63-95
"Eazy's fued with Dre was heated but they needed each other Dre perfected the beat while Eazy locked the flow"
by Backdoorbeads December 20, 2004
Get the Eazy E mug.Exhibiting an egotistical attitude in online settings. Boastful and vain, especially as a participant in interactive video games and discussion boards. Brandishing a sizable e-peen.
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