an act of pushing one self to fit in somewhere to where it becomes obviously unnatural. it feels like people are trying hardest when they start to change themselves. sometimes people seem like they're trying too hard to fit into a certain crowd (e.g. punk, hip hop, emo, mall shopper, football jock, high school prep, pretentious hipster, republican, etc) but they're really not. Most people will criticize based on speculation of noticeable differences such as clothing style and skin color or interest. at first everyone tries too hard, then eventually they just naturally fit in. some people try too hard to act like they're not trying too hard. people who try the hardest are the ones who criticizes others for trying too hard. it states that they're not trying hard by projecting on to others. Others seem like they're trying too hard when they don't fit into the mainstream. but sometimes people try too hard to fit into the mainstream also. this term could be pushed either way or at anybody and could be justified from any perspective. just be yourself, you'll be criticized no matter what. whatever being yourself means.
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it's unnatural for that nerd ugly weird kid to try to fit in with the football jocks. He must be trying too hard to feel superior to his high school peers.

that punk kid is trying too hard to look old school. look at all his chains, spikes, and leather. he use to be nerdy and picked on a lot.

look at that republican knee jerk patriot putting flags all over his car after 9/11. he didn't even care to vote before 9/11. or even know what democratic left or republican right meant a few years back. he's not real. he's a psuedo-conformist

look at that hippie girl, she only listens to ''real'' indie acoustic bands, 2 years ago she loved top 40 radio pop. she's trying too hard.

look at that amish kid, he's all pimped out with hd tv, computers, black berry, ipods, and video games. a few years back everything he had was made of wood.

bored american kids are really concerned with what's real or not. they go online to passive aggressively attack other kids for their style, beliefs, actions and ideas because they can't do it in person. low self esteem is the result of it.
by eazy-X May 09, 2008
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This occurs when someone attempts to prove how they possess a perceived desirable quality by over-exerting themselves which results in the quality appearing unnatural and contrived. Generally, the response to this action is negative and has the opposite effect.
Guy 1 - John thinks he is so tough because he grunts when he lifts weights.
Guy 2 - Ya, his Napoleon Complex is showing, he is totally trying too hard.

Girl 1 - Andrea is trying too hard. She thinks she is so hot when she pops her cleavage and shows her ass.
Girl 2 - Whatever, that skank doesn't realize we can see her cottage cheese thighs in that mini-skirt.
by ncojay September 17, 2013
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The phrase itself can be used as a noun, verb, or adjective, and defines something that is very obviously forcing an image onto its observer. This can be presented in a number of ways, including:

1) A person trying to convey an image that is unlike his or her actual self typically through large amounts of makeup.

2) Something, such as a television show, attempting to mimic a more popular counterpart.
Amy is a Trying Too Hard; She's wearing a shirt meant for a 15-year old. It's too bad she's very obviously in her 40's.

Adam is Trying Too Hard to convince us that he's slept with Amy, the class whore.

Mission Hill is Trying Too Hard to be King of the Hill, as evidenced by its very title.
by HugeBreasticle February 18, 2009
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adj: Used by women to describe men that behave appropriately and exhibit all of the qualities they desire. Purpose is to veto potential sex candidates and prove that women can't accept positive attention. Undisputed proof that women don't know what they fucking want, but are pretty certain that they prefer being treated like shit.
Woman1: Reggie maintained a witty and intelligent conversation with me, took me out to a nice dinner, paid for everything, didn't try to get me drunk, and didn't take advantage of me when I passed out on his couch. I've been screening his phone calls all day because he was trying too hard.

Woman2: My boyfriend hits me during sex and not during sex.

Woman1: Lucky.
by Rockstar Noah October 28, 2007
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when one tries too hard to please another by displaying all of their knowledge which they think will compensate for their lack of emotional connection
hugo is trying too hard all the time with everyone tbh
by imnotemojustedgy July 31, 2017
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