Its when you and a friend (a pookie) have been friends for long enough to where you can publicly violate each other with sexual terms and not be gay. This is a step above pause because so long as you and the other party (your pookie) are in agreement there are no pauses needed when discussing one another.
A person you hate intensely not because they deserve such hatred but because they serve as a focus for your general hatred. A healthy way to dispense with excess animosity.
Jake's not really that big an asshole. He just serves as my hate sink.