When you’re going through a tough time and need to talk to someone. Then that someone turns and says your problems aren’t as bad, that theirs are far worse than yours. Leaving you feeling guilty for how you’re feeling.
You: Sue, I just lost my job and I think I have the virus.
Sue: No big deal, I have diabetes, and heart problems and my cat died last week. I would feel blessed if I was in your place.
You: Dang Sue, this ain't hardship olympics. Friends should be there to listen to each other. All you had to say was “You’ll get through this, I believe in you” .
churchhurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the churchhurt that was inflicted on me as a child.