When you’re going through a tough time and need to talk to someone. Then that someone turns and says your problems aren’t as bad, that theirs are far worse than yours. Leaving you feeling guilty for how you’re feeling.
You: Sue, I just lost my job and I think I have the virus.
Sue: No big deal, I have diabetes, and heart problems and my cat died last week. I would feel blessed if I was in your place.
You: Dang Sue, this ain't hardship olympics. Friends should be there to listen to each other. All you had to say was “You’ll get through this, I believe in you” .
Fogey/fogy /fougi/ sl. (early 18C+, orig. Scot) old-fashioned, stuck-in-the mud.
Person with old fashioned ideas which he is unwilling to change: Come to the disco and stop being such an old fogey!
You think me an old fogeyand an old tory, his thoughtful voice said. I saw three generations since O’Connel’s time. I remember the famine. Do you know that the orange lodges agitated for repeal of the union twenty years before O’Connel did or before the prelates of your communion denounced him as a demagogue? You fenians forget some things. (James Joyce, Ulysses. Penguin Books,1992. p. 38)