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Gary Groundwork 

The subtle art of attaining an individual of desire through hark work and patience.

Stage 1: Initiation
Stage 2: Sustained communication
Stage 3: More hard work and no play
Stage 4: BOOYAH!

Also known as Laying the Gary

The opposite of pash rape
Greg spent all night at the bar engaged Gary Groundwork whilst his mates hit the dancefloor for a bit of Pash Rape action
Gary Groundwork by wannabeerased January 14, 2008

lay groundwork 

when a guy or a girl starts a conversation with the purpose of getting a phone number or getting laid.
Guy: i think you should come here more often
Girl: hahaha i will
guys friend: ayyye nice way to lay groundwork
lay groundwork by Wetzpretz April 28, 2013

Gary Groundwork 

'Gary Groundwork' is all about laying the foundation for desired sick leave (i.e. unjustified sick leave). This can involve over fake coughing, forced sniffling or pretending to lose one's voice. This is usually supported by verbal commentary such as 'I think I'm coming down with something'. Expertly performed 'Gary Groundwork' dupes co-workers and draws unwaranted sympathy. Therefore, when you call in sick, others have noticed that you supposedly had certain symptoms and comment accordingly.
Is Melanie really sick or is it just Gary Groundwork
Geez, Melanie is laying on the Gary Groundwork nice and thick today!

Gary Groundwork 

Someone who does all of the hard work of buttering up a girl, only for someone else to swoop in and steal the benefits. Gary spends a lot of time being nice and making the girl feel really 'comfortable' for only for someone cooler to actually get laid off it. He tries too hard, but always ends up getting the girl in the mood for someone to take over. "Jim" (Jim's mowing) is the counterpart who usually "cut's his grass" and takes all the benefit of poor Gary laying all the ground work.
Fucking Jared stole that blonde off Joel the other night. Joel was doingthe biggest Gary Groundwork chatting to her all night, and Jared just steps in at the last minute and starts tongue lashing her. What a fuckwit.
Gary Groundwork by FemShepAU December 28, 2016

groundwalking 

When you constantly beg for a healing arrow in TF2
"Med... MED! Arrow me!"
"Stop groundwalking, Groundwalker."
groundwalking by bbbbbbbbbbbbbe January 19, 2019

groupwork 

A learning strategy devised by academics to divert attention from themselves and their own activities, cut down on teaching time and cause the maximum amount of stress and discomfort to their students. Groupwork involves the administration of complex, indecipherable assessment tasks which students are left to spend long hours together in each others' company to figure out leading often to short periods of abusive conflict and sometimes even longer periods of fornication and even marriage.
Jemima: Professor, can you please answer me a question about our assignment?

Professor: No I can't. You see, it's groupwork. You have to figure it out together with your team mates. Why not go and ask Brad to help you. He looks like he'd be happy to straighten you out. I have to go now and see if that infernal coffee bar is open yet.
groupwork by The Gonzo Lecture March 25, 2010
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Frothability 

The measure of an emotional and over zealous consumer in an upwardly charging market, also known as a bull market. It's characterized by rising asset prices, increased investor confidence, and favorable growth in the markets, bro.
The frothability was evident as over-zealous consumers eagerly engaged in bidding wars, driving property prices to unsustainable levels reminiscent of previous speculative bubbles.
Frothability by cptn.kagaroo1 January 26, 2024
Word of the Day on November 12, 2026

Soul digger

A man who dates women with the sole purpose of exploiting their time, energy, and labor while he sucks the joy and happiness from their lives.
"That guy's a soul digger. He'll expect you to work full time, but you'll be doing all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, and childcare while he plays video games or watches TV."
Soul digger by anonymous November 11, 2026
Word of the Day on November 11, 2026

pod person 

A person pretending to be something they aren't, or an impostor. This is inferred because of the old alien movies where alien pods appear on earth and the "pod people" dispose of the humans and slowly reproduce the bodies, pretending to be humans.
The pod person was pretending to be my father, but I knew that he was an alien when he acted differently than my father ever would have.
pod person by Christopher M. May 9, 2005
Word of the Day on November 10, 2026
A dead drop is a location used to secretly pass items between two people, without requiring them to meet.

Spies have been known to use dead drops, using various techniques to hide the items and to signal that the drop has been made. Drug dealers use this as well.

A common place is to duct tape the item to the underside of a toilet cover in a public restroom.

A signal is sometimes used as well to indicate there is something to pickup, like a pile of stones in a certain formation. After checking the drop the signal is removed.
"The dead drop is the restroom toilet at the Gulf station at the corner of Commercial Ave. and Georges Rd."
dead drop by rubberroom July 23, 2008
Word of the Day on November 9, 2026

No Surprises Wedding

A "No Surprises Wedding," or NSW, is a wedding invitation designation that tells attendees that there can be no unplanned announcements, engagements, events or speeches at the wedding - all actions must be pre-approved by the couple. Anyone who performs an unapproved "surprise" will be asked to leave the wedding early.

This designation comes from Reddit, where so many stories of bad wedding behavior indicated a need to communicate expectations for the wedding behavior of attendees.
You are cordially invited to the nuptials of Brian and Tom on October 31 at noon.

Please note that this wedding is child-free (under 10) and a No Surprises Wedding (NSW). Reach out to wedding planner Sami Smith to request approvals or exceptions; please note that exceptions will be rare. Limited child care for under-10s will be available. All approvals will be noted and included in planning. Unapproved, or surprise exceptions, will result in guests being asked to leave.
Word of the Day on November 8, 2026
Ulzzang true definition is "best & "face" = best face in korean. They are basically people with above average looks, sometimes with the use of photoshop and haduri who post their pics online, some becoming internet celebrities.
"Hey, see that chick over there? She's pretty enough to be an ulzzang. :D"
ulzzang by `r i k kit t y February 26, 2008
Word of the Day on November 7, 2026
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