a boring story or trivial remark to prevent an embarrassing silence
remember: the most boring shit gets exciting when it is a shame saver
remember: the most boring shit gets exciting when it is a shame saver
"Everybody was about to go embarrassingly quiet but Tom shamesaved us with a story about him waiting for 2 hours at the doctor."
"I misapplied a shame saver last night. It turned out people just smoked too much pot."
"I misapplied a shame saver last night. It turned out people just smoked too much pot."
by Gustaphe August 24, 2012

Clerk:"Did you bring your own bags?"
Me: "no"
I walked away with brown bags / plastic bags feeling "bag shamed"
Me: "no"
I walked away with brown bags / plastic bags feeling "bag shamed"
by Tdall August 18, 2017

When someone who has been affected mentally or psychologically by a trauma, or even a bad upbringing, is criticized for the behavior they display as a result of the trauma, with those criticizing seemingly forgetting, or not knowing the reason behind this behavior. Some may continue to criticize the person with the trauma even when explained the reason, claiming that the trauma doesn't "justify" their behavior. In the case of fictional characters, expect one to call a trauma-stricken character "annoying" for lashing out.
Commenter: "Ugh, just watching Degrassi Junior High right now and Spike is so rude towards Shane! Like why is she like that towards that poor boy?"
Another commenter: "Dude, she literally has an absent father and she got pregnant at 14. Stop trauma shaming.".
Another commenter: "Dude, she literally has an absent father and she got pregnant at 14. Stop trauma shaming.".
by Spike from Degrassi November 8, 2021

When someone calls others out for not following social distancing rules during the COVID-19 pandemic, whether in person or on social media.
When I mentioned to Karen that I went out twice this week for groceries, she told me that I should only be going out once a week at most and that I was putting other people in danger by my selfish choices.
Karen was pandemic shaming me...
Karen was pandemic shaming me...
by PJ Daly April 17, 2020

When you realize your BFF has called and texted several times during the night to make sure you made it home safely from your date the night before. And you have to make that call of shame to let them know you spent the night and that you are sorry you worried them.
To Kristen (9:36 am) Hey, it's Lisa...sorry I worried you last night . I am making my call of shame to let you know I am driving home now...*sigh*
by 🔥 crotch sisters June 10, 2017

Masterbating out of shame
by hellhammer February 2, 2015

The look someone gives you when you to silently inform you of the uncoolness you may accidentally be radiating. They are do so by raining their shame rays down upon you. Shame Rays are usually a silent expression on the face of an onlookers witnessing your public gaucherie, but may be accompanied by a 'wait- what?' and raised eyebrows.
'On Friday when I was drunk, I tried to explain to a bunch of my co-workers what 'Neat Pet Group' is on Facebook and how it fills my newsfeed with pics of cool dogs... and how this video popped up where this dog didn't know how to respond to the command 'get down', so it did all the tricks it knew...and well, then they gave it a treat anyway because that was cute, you know?' Everyone was silent during the build-up to and post- this rather considerable anti-climax. I felt their shame-rays raining down on me as I plowed on through the increasingly staggered and awkward story to the inevitable and disappointing conclusion. So that was my evening.
by Amedawgnarlymoves August 15, 2018
