Pick Me Boyfriend
A pick me boyfriend is one who only does an action only if they agree with it. If they don’t agree with an action, they will act confused and refuse. They will further victimize themselves by saying it’s the girlfriends fault for asking. They may further blame the girlfriend for voicing what she wants if she responds with anger or ignores in retaliation to boyfriends refusal. On the frequent occasion, as argument is in transit, boyfriend may say the girlfriend isn't a good communicator.
A pick me boyfriend requires numerous reminders 1-20+ times before considering an action. He will say you nag too much for his inability to do something the first time it’s said. We have wonderful men in government and business which require swift action, but he will require 1-20+ reminders to say you’re nagging. He will make you praise him for finally building up the motivation to do said reminder.
Ex. Girlfriend asks boyfriend to help with the dishes. Boyfriend refuses and says it that isn’t his job and it’s his girlfriends job. Boyfriend values his time over his girlfriend’s and he sees the girlfriend’s time is better used to do the dishes.
Ex. Girlfriend reminds boyfriend 1-3 times a day to pick up his clothes off the floor. Boyfriend continues to throw dirty clothes on the floor for “whomever” to pick it up or “whenever he feels like it.” Habit may on the rare occasion be resolved in 1 hr to 100yrs. Duration of cure varies per human man.
A pick me boyfriend is one who only does an action only if they agree with it. If they don’t agree with an action, they will act confused and refuse. They will further victimize themselves by saying it’s the girlfriends fault for asking. They may further blame the girlfriend for voicing what she wants if she responds with anger or ignores in retaliation to boyfriends refusal. On the frequent occasion, as argument is in transit, boyfriend may say the girlfriend isn't a good communicator.
A pick me boyfriend requires numerous reminders 1-20+ times before considering an action. He will say you nag too much for his inability to do something the first time it’s said. We have wonderful men in government and business which require swift action, but he will require 1-20+ reminders to say you’re nagging. He will make you praise him for finally building up the motivation to do said reminder.
Ex. Girlfriend asks boyfriend to help with the dishes. Boyfriend refuses and says it that isn’t his job and it’s his girlfriends job. Boyfriend values his time over his girlfriend’s and he sees the girlfriend’s time is better used to do the dishes.
Ex. Girlfriend reminds boyfriend 1-3 times a day to pick up his clothes off the floor. Boyfriend continues to throw dirty clothes on the floor for “whomever” to pick it up or “whenever he feels like it.” Habit may on the rare occasion be resolved in 1 hr to 100yrs. Duration of cure varies per human man.
Friend: Did John really have they audacity to blame you for not being able to communicate directly with him about what will make you happy? What a pick me bf!
You: I only have asked him everyday, to pick up the clothes, take out his trash, clean his piss around the toilet, wash his dishes...and he says he doesn’t know what I want. It must be because he’ll only hear me if he agrees with what I want.
You: I only have asked him everyday, to pick up the clothes, take out his trash, clean his piss around the toilet, wash his dishes...and he says he doesn’t know what I want. It must be because he’ll only hear me if he agrees with what I want.
by nonunonuu January 12, 2021
Get the Pick Me BFmug. “Sarah is such a pick me.”
“How?”
“She said ‘women belong in the kitchen’ so her crush would like her!”
“How?”
“She said ‘women belong in the kitchen’ so her crush would like her!”
by tallmaninfedorawalkingdog July 1, 2024
Get the Pick Memug. Usage:
Shaming:
Any loving a man female being shamed by the seething flock of arrogant/snobbish control freak women - she doesn't place above him. (her commitment to the daily choice to love = loyally serving/submitting/tolerating/etc being useful to him - to add to his life, not harm it; not having others on the same level or above him in any way)
Anyone on any level sub to man or not hating men - supportive and pleasing to be with, instead of: impudent, greedy, demanding, egotistical, hedonistic, hubristic, transactional, harmful.. - overall repulsive, expecting simping/slaving for them.
Pecking at her like chickens; because - themselves don't really love men if not despise, but want to manipulatively impose control upon them (it's all the projections they say about men, but in reverse, being a twisted, incapable of empathy, parody on masculine herself), placing their flock of women above the man.
From either leftover women or insecure women with (naturally too empathetically biased for fem) men they've 'trained' to be an expendable utility. Destructive to any other relationship, that doesn't give them attention or follow imposed template - normalizing hers, they'd probably call you that.
Popularized on tiktok - a mental institution catalog / personal diary of deranged women.
Hypocrisy call-out:
Virtue signaling female, that fakes to love a man for attention or other gain - similar to thot/tradthot. Like looking for soft life pseudo-trad bimbo-for-hire gold diggers.
Shaming:
Any loving a man female being shamed by the seething flock of arrogant/snobbish control freak women - she doesn't place above him. (her commitment to the daily choice to love = loyally serving/submitting/tolerating/etc being useful to him - to add to his life, not harm it; not having others on the same level or above him in any way)
Anyone on any level sub to man or not hating men - supportive and pleasing to be with, instead of: impudent, greedy, demanding, egotistical, hedonistic, hubristic, transactional, harmful.. - overall repulsive, expecting simping/slaving for them.
Pecking at her like chickens; because - themselves don't really love men if not despise, but want to manipulatively impose control upon them (it's all the projections they say about men, but in reverse, being a twisted, incapable of empathy, parody on masculine herself), placing their flock of women above the man.
From either leftover women or insecure women with (naturally too empathetically biased for fem) men they've 'trained' to be an expendable utility. Destructive to any other relationship, that doesn't give them attention or follow imposed template - normalizing hers, they'd probably call you that.
Popularized on tiktok - a mental institution catalog / personal diary of deranged women.
Hypocrisy call-out:
Virtue signaling female, that fakes to love a man for attention or other gain - similar to thot/tradthot. Like looking for soft life pseudo-trad bimbo-for-hire gold diggers.
by veinsofgold April 27, 2025
Get the Pick memug. “Omg, he didn’t compliment my dress that I felt pretty in🥺” - Amber Heard, a pick me
A narcissist who lies about being abused for attention.
A narcissist who lies about being abused for attention.
by Hehe2134 May 4, 2022
Get the Pick Memug. 
sam avnet
by sigmanusocial December 3, 2023
Get the Pick me girlmug. Someone who tries to get the approval of their oppressors. These people will often throw others from their group under the bus and embrace the oppression against them in an attempt to get attention from the oppressors.
Origin: From the phrase "pick me" which is often yelled by classmates in a classroom in media when their teacher asks a question.
Origin: From the phrase "pick me" which is often yelled by classmates in a classroom in media when their teacher asks a question.
by Shugunou March 20, 2023
Get the Pick Memug.