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Ask no questions hear no lies

A term used by someone with the intent to lie.
Guy: Have you cheated?

Girl: ask no questions hear no lies

Guy: wtf, so you have?

Girl: (says nothing)

Girl: I'm not even sorry

Guy: **heart breaks** again
by _The Secret_ March 25, 2020
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gn

Baddest 80's muscle car built!

last of the breed!
look at the fukkin GN go!

that GN is bad ass!
by _The Secret_ December 25, 2019
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Chemistry

We know chemistry when we feel it with another person, but we don't always know why we're drawn to one person over another. Is it just a cascade of neurotransmitters and hormones conspiring to rush you toward reproduction? Is it attraction borne of a set of shared values? Or is it bonding over specific experiences that create intimacy?

It's probably a combination of all three, plus ineffable qualities that even matchmaking services can't perfectly nail down.

With few exceptions, behavior has features of both genetics and history. It's nature and nurture.

Scientists who study attraction take into consideration everything from genetics, psychology, and family history to traumas, which have been shown to impact a person's ability to bond or feel desire.

Love can be broken down into three distinct stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. In each stage, your body chemistry behaves differently. It turns out that "chemistry" is, at least in part, actual chemistry. Biochemistry, specifically.

In the lust and attraction phases, your body is directing the show, as people can feel desire without knowing anything personal about the object of that desire. Lust, is nothing more than the existence of a sex drive, or the craving for sexual gratification. It's a sensation driven by estrogens and androgens, the female and male sex hormones, based in the biological drive to reproduce.
Attraction may be influenced less than lust by physiological factors -the appeal of someone's features, or the way they make you laugh—but your body is still calling the shots at this stage, pumping you full of the hormones cortisol, adrenaline, and dopamine, effecting your brain in a way that's like the way illicit substances do.

The attachment phase is characterized by increases in oxytocin and vasopressin; these hormones are thought to promote bonding and positive behaviors to sustain connections over time in order to fulfill parental duties.

Additionally, while oxytocin has long gotten the credit for being the love hormone, scientists dont use oxytocin freely anymore, because it has broader functions than simply bonding. It also plays a role in the contraction of the uterus to stimulate birth, instigating lactation, and sexual arousal; low levels have been linked to autism spectrum disorders.

Chemistry has been linked to a charmingly named hormone known as kisspeptin. Produced in the hypothalamus, kisspeptin plays a role in the onset of puberty, and may increase libido, regulate the gonadal steroids that fuel the sex drive, and help the body maintain pregnancy. There is a lot more study about the role kisspeptin plays in attraction.

Chemistry predicts nothing but chemistry. This is because chemistry can make people blind to actual incompatibilities or warning signs. A spark can build based on what you have in common. You can grow into love, but you grow out of lust.
by _The Secret_ February 25, 2020
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MSP

Munchausen syndrome by proxy (MSP) -- or Munchausen by proxy -- is a psychological disorder marked by attention-seeking behavior by a caregiver through those who are in their care. ... The person with MSP gains attention by seeking medical help for exaggerated or made-up symptoms of a child in his or her care.
The person with MSP does not seem to be motivated by a desire for any type of material gain. While health care providers are often unable to identify the specific cause of the child's illness, they may not suspect the mother or caregiver of doing anything to harm the child. In fact the caregiver often appears to be very loving and caring and extremely distraught over her/his child's illness.
by _The Secret_ September 16, 2019
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Love

Although almost noone can agree on a single definition of love, most agree that it plays a significant role on their psychological well-being (Te Taha Hinengaro) and our Te Whare Tapa Whā.

Love is not an emotion nor a feeling, but a chemical reaction driven by extreme feelings of respect, euphoric attraction and willingness to put another's happiness and well-being above your own.

Love and lust have very similar characteristics, but unlike lust, love is long lasting.
Other definitions are mostlikely emotionally charged and bear no logical or rational reasoning. They have no correlation to the bigger picture; that is: love for family members or even pets, but are purely directed at one's partner.

However with your partner love can in some cases give you a lust-like feeling after years of being in a close relationship.

Love is so nebulous to many, even the famous band 'Foreigner' wrote a song titled "I want to know what love is".
by _The Secret_ October 27, 2019
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Rhodesia

The old name for Zimbabwe. Zimbabwe is a landlocked country in southern Africa with a surface area of 390,757 square kilometers. In combination with its relatively small size, its also relatively sparsely populated. When calculated with the 2019 population of 14.65 million people, the population density of Zimbabwe is 37.5 people per square kilometer, which ranks 142nd in the world. Harare (formerly known as Salisbury) is the capital with a population of 1.5million.
Rhodesia the home the one of a kind brown skin girl,
her skin just like pearls,
the best thing in the world,
Never trade you for anybody else.
by _The Secret_ January 15, 2020
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Not forever

Its hard to explain the empty feeling in your heart. Why does it hurt so much? Why wont it go away.

You had hopes and dreams with a certain person but they'd continuously hurt you. Was it their way of pushing you away? Why couldn't they just leave the relationship?

You made yourself vulnerable to this person and they broke you down time after time. The pain was unbearable. You tried to ask why they did these things to hurt you, but they'd laugh at you and call you sensitive. The unanswered questions are the pain now.

Someone far more special will soon come into your life, someone who brings you up, who cherishes the small things, who doesn't feel entitled, and who brings the best out in you not the worst.
The pain is not forever. It was just a lesson along the way. It's okay to be vulnerable. It's all worth it in the end.
by _The Secret_ December 12, 2019
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