SSAsystemicscapegoatabuseowner's definitions

Blame Dumping

“I grew up the family’s blame dump, everybody’s mess got put on me.”

Nice Blame Dumping

by SSAsystemicscapegoatabuseowner August 6, 2025

Pain Proxy

I became the spouse's pain proxy, their unhealed stuff landed on me

I never agreed to be your pain proxy

by SSAsystemicscapegoatabuseowner August 6, 2025

Narcsplaining

When a narcissistic person or someone with narcissistic tendencies is twisting, gaslighting or role reversing (DARVO), telling their "version" of a story.

My NEX was narcsplaining during our divorce proceedings

by SSAsystemicscapegoatabuseowner February 7, 2024

Narc Apprentice

The child of the narcissist that acclimates and emulates, plays the flying monkey/henchmen of the narc and will be the head narc in succession after the passing of the main narcissist.

My middle sister is my mom's narc apprentice

by SSAsystemicscapegoatabuseowner February 7, 2024