Originally meant joyful, vibrant
, and full of life.
Now it's used by ignorant
(and often prejudic
ed) people to describe something that they don't like. It's especially common among teenage boys, who use it to look cool
or to "hide" their insecurity
about gay people.
Gay is now slang for a homosexual
person, that is, somebody who is attracted romantically and sexually to people of their own sex.
Gay men are known as gays, while gay women are known as lesbian
s. And some bisexual
s also identify as gay.
Up to 1 in every 10 adults is predominantly gay; everybody is somewhere in between the two extremes of heterosexual
Gay is only sometimes, but not always:
-Living with AIDS
-Living a promiscuous
-Acting very much like the opposite gender (very masculine
women and very feminine
men.)(When people think of these stereotype
s, they're usually thinking about transsexual
people or transgender
people instead. Most of these people are straight and just happen to identify as the opposite gender.)
-All about sex.
Being gay is not an illness or a perversion; it's a totally normal variation of human sexuality and it's been around for countless ages, not to mention existing in many different species of animals. In fact, heterosexuals could learn some things from gays, bisexuals, transgender people, pansexual
s, and other queer people... if they would only put their prejudice aside and look at them as people.
Gay men don't take any women from the straight men looking for a lady
and vice versa with lesbians and straight women... and lesbians (and sometimes gay men) provide something exciting for the straight men and women to watch... same-sex kisses.
Gays are perfectly normal people. Their only "difference" is that they (romantically) love somebody of their own sex. Aside from the cruel prejudice that they face because of who they love, they usually are able to live wonderfully full, happy lives.
Often, gays have reclamed old derogatory
terms for them as terms of affection: fag
for the men, dyke
for the women, queer
for anyone from the non-heterosexual community, etc... although they can still be used as insults by the bigot
Gays sometimes do imitate
heterosexual gender role
) in their marriage
s (in every other way if not legal), but most do not; plenty of femmes pair up with other femmes, butches with other butches, androgyny
and so forth. It's often remarkable how much their union
s resemble heterosexual unions.
A man can be highly flamboyant
and act and dress quite feminine, but sleeping with men is the last thing on this mind. Likewise, a man can be incredibly butch and swagger
ing, and yet he likes to sleep with men; being gay has to do with who you are attracted to sexually, not how masculine or how feminine you are.
Gay is not all about sex. Most gays are happy doing other things than sex. And most gays loathe
the idea of molest
ing a child, contrary to the beliefs of ignorant people. (Almost all pedophile
s are heterosexual)
And with marriage ending in so many divorce
s, then those in favor of marriage should be happy that there are people who want to get married and are willing to fight for that right
. Gays have had to fight
so much for the basic rights that straights take for granted